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Rules you had in your childhood that now seem bizarre?

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Tattted · 05/02/2022 17:20

As a child/teen living with my parents we were actively discouraged from showering/bathing everyday. It was really frowned upon and seen as unnecessary and probably a bit extravagant. I know probably as a young child I didn’t need to but as I got older and even after I turned 18 and was still living at home they would have been a bit annoyed about it if I wanted to shower everyday . I should say where we live has no water charges so it wasn’t about that. Now as an adult and a mother myself it seems so strange. I realise it’s probably because my parents both came from large families that had very little money and, back then, no hot running water. Even know my parents bath weekly but sink wash every day.

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Inspectorslack · 05/02/2022 20:25

I wasn’t allowed to stand in front of the microwave when it was on as it would cook my innards.

AngelinaFibres · 05/02/2022 20:25

When there was a thunderstorm the tv and all lights had to be switched off. We used to sit in darkness , in total silence waiting to be blown to oblivion

Wreath21 · 05/02/2022 20:26

ITV was percieved as a bit common. We also had sliced up mars bars, and peanuts were only allowed in a little glass dish, which you had to eat sitting down and never put more than one in your mouth at a time (I think there had been a recent new story about a kid choking on a peanut).
But we definitely had to have a bath - or shower - every day.

bibliophile002 · 05/02/2022 20:27

I’m deaf so this rule didn’t apply to me but my brother/sister had to wait until after six o’clock to make a phone call but not before getting consent from my Dad (a softy really just parsimonious).
Same as another OP about shoes. Big big brown clompy shoes, hideous. I might as well have had a neon sign saying beat me up.
All the other girls had grey high heels popular back in 80s.
Oh, our school had a choice of red, blue or white long sleeved shirt. My Mother chose the red (no one else had the red) and being overweight too, plus big wide oversize shoes, I looked like I was auditioning for Santa’s Grotto every day ….

NatashaBedwouldbenice · 05/02/2022 20:28

Us daughters weren't allowed anklets or tattoos (only prostitutes had them). I loved anklet, and I always buy a cheap one or two on beach holidays.

No ITV, Grange Hill or Byker Grove (not suitable).

No snacks. No asking for "can-I-haves" when out and about.

Having to kiss relatives at the beginning and end of visits, even if you didn't want to.

We're not close and I'm barely in touch with my parents or siblings nowadays.

Etak123 · 05/02/2022 20:29

@FrenchyQ

We were only allowed 3 eggs a week, otherwise we'd get egg bound ( constipated I think?).
Egg bound! >_< that’s one of the funniest things I’ve ever heard hahaha

Lots of these too and no short hair on girls and no chewing gum

Twospaniels · 05/02/2022 20:31

@Mamette

I’m intrigued as to how the 0.5 of a creme egg was stored overnight.
On a saucer with a small bowl over the top
sweetbellyhigh · 05/02/2022 20:31

@SGBK4682

Being taught how to use cutlery properly / have good table manners, and banned from using a fork in the right hand. Also always having to 'lay' the table and sit at it to eat. My dad would make out we would never get on in life or a career if we didn't.

Now I rarely use a knife, always eat with the fork in my right hand and only sit at the table for a family meal or if we have guests. And this had not affected my career one jot, strange to say!!!

We had the same rule about eating at the table, impeccable manners etc and I have carried it on with my children. I'm actually glad I was taught well as I feel sorry for people who don't know how to use cutlery properly or just engage in meal times politely. We were always taught that it's the social interaction that matters more than the consumption of food, and meal times are my favourite, so many good conversations.
Squirrel26 · 05/02/2022 20:32

Not allowed to watch Heartbreak High as it was 'unsuitable', or one particular episode of Casualty as it was 'disturbing'. Everything else was fine...as long as it wasn't on ITV.

We also had to say 'please may I get down' at the end of meals and for a brief (and unsuccessful) period we were supposed to speak only in French at tea time.

user1471554720 · 05/02/2022 20:33

One bath a week with about 2 inches of water. When I was a teen and my hair got greasy, I boiled a kettle and washed it every 3 days. Immersion only put on once a week fir a bath. It was a big deal to get my mother to put it on. I would boil a kettle of water every morning for washing underarms.

We couldn't help ourselves to fresh knickers and socks every day. I used to change knickers every 3 days. After 2 days if knickers sweaty, I had to show my mother and ask her to give me fresh ones. My mother had the hot press organised with clothes aired well in one bundle, newly washed in another etc. My father was not even allowed help himself to anything out of the hot press.

We didn't own dressing gowns, these were for wonen getting up at night feeding a baby. A few times when I was sick and couldn't get dressed, I put on my outdoor coat over my nightie.

Had to get dressed each morning straightaway, also had to put on full clothes after the once weekly bath, no louging around watching TV in a nightie of an evening.

Heating was sparse and I was always cool despite wearing lots of layers. When I was sick I went to school as it was warmer than at home. Got sent home a few times sick.

No inviting friends to ours or me going to sleepovers or birthday parties ever. I didn't go to friends houses as 'we would have to ask them to our house'. It felt very miserable as a teen, nothing to look forward to. As a teen, I asked my mother if I could arrange to meet a friend in town while she did the food shop. We were rural. She said no, as she didn't want to be stuck to a time and wanted the freedom to do a food shop at anytime Sat morning.

No going out for nights with anyone of either sex. An odd night out was arranged when I was late teen but it would be arranged for weeks in advance with a friend. If my friend pullef out, another night wouldn't happen for months again. I often cried when a friend said she 'didn't feel like going out'. I was rural and had to get driven by my parents so I didn't gave the luxury of choosing to go out or not just on a whim. I was in college at 18, staying with my granny in town. I mentioned to my mother about going on a date. She started saying 'I don't know, getting ready to stop me!!! I said I am not asking her, I am informing her that I am going.

No going out for meals on birthdays. No going for a cup of coffee if we were in town. Eat enough at home. No eating chips on the street in the town 10 miles away as people would think we didn't have a dinner at home. It was fine at the seaside 50 miles away. The first time I ate chips in the street as an adult after a night out I felt guilty.

We only had 2 channels of tv so not much fights about programmes.

No phone until I was 20. Once I answered it and my father thought i had made a call. I couldn't reason and he tried to stick me with the bill. From then on I never answered it. If my parents answered it and my friend was on they would call me to the phone. At least they would know I had not made a call. A few times I heard the phone ringing and went out to bring in clothes off the line, any excuse so I don't have to answer and be accused of making a call. I wouldn't call parents to the phone if it rang as I was bitter about being accused in the wrong.

SpiderinaWingMirror · 05/02/2022 20:34

Not being allowed to watch ITV.

WorriedMillie · 05/02/2022 20:34

Oh and apparently, eating a banana for supper is terrible for one’s digestive system 🧐

Lookforwardtosummer · 05/02/2022 20:34

No using the landline before 6pm

No drink with dinner (in case it filled us up)

Getting the best tea service out (I remember it was called Eternal Beau) when relatives visited on a Sunday afternoon

godmum56 · 05/02/2022 20:35

@Etak123
"To be fair, it’s bad for your digestion to drink when you eat, your stomach/gut can’t get all the goodies out properly lol a dietitian told me x"
"I would purely LOVE to know the research on that one. I used to work with dieticians helping people with swallowing/eating problems including people who were peg fed. Peg fed individuals had their tubes flushed with water before and after feeds and people with some swallowing issues were encouraged to drink as they ate to keep the food from collecting in their mouths....and what about soup? fruit in juice and so on?

blyn72 · 05/02/2022 20:35

[quote FAQs]@mizzo I’m with your mum on the soup and drink, I can’t have both it’s just wrong Grin[/quote]
Not even a glass of water?

mumofEandE · 05/02/2022 20:36

@BakedTattie

We were absolutely FORBIDDEN to touch the windows in our car when I was young. We weren’t allowed to eat in the car either. No way.

My dad now takes my children to mcdonalds drive through, they all come home happily eating their meals in the car. My kids are also allowed to breathe on the car windows and ‘draw’ with their finger in the condensation.

Talk about favouritism

Oh yes we had that and not allowed to touch those wired line things in the back car window - we'd be electrocuted Hmm
mumofEandE · 05/02/2022 20:39

We all had to go to the toilet (for number 2s) as well as washed / dressed / have breakfast before we were allowed to open our Christmas presents - it never occurred to me to lie Hmm

sweetbellyhigh · 05/02/2022 20:39

If we ever went on a plane (which didn't happen very often) you had to wear smart clothes.

Yes! We got new clothes for flying 😂

maddiemookins16mum · 05/02/2022 20:39

No eating in the street.
No knocking for your pals to come out and play on a Sunday.
No patent shoes.
Fizzy drinks were only for a Friday night (the day the Corona van came).
No watching Magpie or Tiswas.
Ketchup was banned.
Always had to ask for milk, water and squash we were allowed to help ourselves.
It sounds an awful childhood, it 100% was a fab one.

AngelinaFibres · 05/02/2022 20:40

@notprincehamlet

I wasn't allowed to choose what clothes were bought for me until I was about 15 and my mum's fashion choices were dreadful. This! My mother had a particular fondness for hideous shoes - she may as well have sent me out into the world with a bullseye pinned to my back.
My parents were not religious in any way but seemed obsessed with stopping me growing into a woman. My dad seemed to have lots of hangups around sex, sexuality. They wanted me to dress like the frumpiest ,frump that ever walked the earth. Young farmers discos from 16. My outfit was a brown , brushed cotton , lumberjack shirt, brown corduroy trousers and my brown lace up school shoes. Sixth form Christmas Ball outfit.....brown, longish,wrap front skirt. Brown blouse and flat ,brown, sandals. My friends all had older sisters so they had fashionable dresses and shoes from Dolcis and Manfields. They wore make up and permed their hair. I envied them hugely. The stupid thing is , that I was so shy and awkward that if a boy had spoken to me I would have died of fright so I was entirely safe from the sexual experiences they were so terrified I would have. I was, sadly , horribly bullied because I looked like such a freak.
godmum56 · 05/02/2022 20:41

the baths and period thing..... I remember being told it was easier to catch a chill while you were having a period. Baths and hairwashing wasn't banned but you had to be extra careful to get your hair dried quickly and wrap up well in towels as soon as you got out of the bath.

Rachellow · 05/02/2022 20:41

No pierced ears
No heelies
Fruit juice known as breakfast juice and only allowed on special occasions. It was a big a thing to choose your birthday juice as well as your cake
Only allowed one glass of squash per day and had to do water first
Completely banned from any fun fair except Disney
Curtains had to be opened as soon you were changed for the day
Only my older brother was allowed to play squash
Had to play an instrument
“Family surname don’t get Bs”
Was allowed to do lots of extra curricular activities but had to commit for at least a year and go to everything. Atheist parents moved heaven and earth so we could go to every scouting church service.

augustusglupe · 05/02/2022 20:44

Yes Mossstitch you've brought it back to me, not washing your hair when on your period. It was definitely a thing in the 70s.
Also, we all had to watch whatever Dad had on the tele. No question and definitely no talking!!

ParkheadParadise · 05/02/2022 20:44

I didn't realise what a normal childhood I had until reading this thread.
We had NONE of these rules 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️

Thecurtainsofdestiny · 05/02/2022 20:44

No books at the table.

Only milk or water with food, never squash.

No locking the bathroom door.

2 biscuits only.

We could have a bath twice a week though.