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Ever said the wrong thing

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Rose220 · 05/02/2022 15:03

I'm always putting my foot in it. Most recently I was stressed and upset and told someone something so quick that it came across the wrong way I used the wrong words without thinking. I was picked up on it and explained everything after in detail. Only I feel like things have just got much worse. Only now I can't sleep and I'm worried. Something small has become something big.

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Rose220 · 05/02/2022 17:12

All day my anxiety has been through the roof. I've spoken to family about the issue and they said I have no need to worry. But there not in my situation. I feel as if I could turn the clock back I would. My mouth runs away with me sometimes. It can only go two ways. And I'm constantly thinking the worst x

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flapjackfairy · 05/02/2022 17:16

Oh goodness we all do that. I put my foot in it on a regular basis.
Your anxiety is out if control that's all. Just laugh at yourself and then forget it . It will all be fine x

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Rose220 · 05/02/2022 17:23

It's going to be a long weekend as nothing can be resolved till Monday. I have an autistic child who is 14 who has been very challenging. After a very hard week with him. I opened up to his school teacher and cried but I should of spoken more clearly and in depth as now I have given then the wrong impression. As the words I used were wrong and everything has got twisted into a very wrong way. I was upset I rolled everything of like a tick sheet but really quick and simple without any in depth of the situation. Now I wished I used my words wisely. Only now more people r involved. There offering support but I'm scared of what they think of me x

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Chichimcgee · 05/02/2022 17:26

You sound so much like me. Could you be on the spectrum as well?
The more I try to explain myself the worse it gets.

I would write a text or email so you can edit, re-read and really think about what you’re trying to say. I’ve emailed the school and basically said ‘I find things easier to write down and further to our meeting I’d like to add….’

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Rose220 · 05/02/2022 17:32

I feel so alone. But thanku that will would probably help. Ive never been in trouble or feel as people are watching me but now I feel like this and things will only get worse. It wasnt that bad what I said but in the wrong context you could take it the wrong way. I'm not scared of help I welcome it. It's just I'm scared the more help I ask for the more they think I can't cope. I admit this week has been awful. Infact I haven't had a week like this in about 3 years x

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BumsweaterNeuronywuss · 05/02/2022 17:35

All the time.

Nobody cares as much as you do, and in the unlikely event they did, that's what apologies are for (which often make it worse, so you cant win).

I always say the wrong thing where teachers are concerned. Might be worth speaking to them again when your not feeling so emotionally charged.

What @flapjackfairy said!

Try and take your mind of it somehow. If you just simply can't, write down how you feel about it all and what you'd like to get across, might help you pintpoint certain things which will probably help you next time you have to speak to someone like that.

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Rose220 · 05/02/2022 17:39

Thanku for ur advice. It's nice talking to others. Talking helps with my worries. It's just I so wish it hadn't happen on a Friday night. I feel as if I can't get out of the situation I put myself into. I did explain in detail exactly what happened which wasn't half as bad as I first put it across. But I worry they don't believe me. They have said they have no worries. Yet sometimes what people say is different to how they feel.

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Chichimcgee · 05/02/2022 17:58

It’s difficult to know what to suggest without knowing the specifics but I’m sure it’s all ok and if not just explain that you struggle verbally and will email them instead.

flapjackfairy · 05/02/2022 23:03

well if they say they have mo worries then that is what they mean. they wouldn't say it otherwise. Really ! You have had a tough week by the sounds of it so be gentle with yourself and try to let it go. it will be okay xxx

AnOnly · 06/02/2022 00:51

Can you write them a letter and put into words what you actually wanted to say? You can explain that you were at a low ebb and that's why you got emotional.

Please try not to worry about it - that's not going to make any difference between now and Monday. I know it's easier said than done because I have suffered from anxiety in the past (and no doubt will do again in the future). But everything I have ever worried about or that had induced extreme anxiety, has never come to fruition. Give them your note on Monday and discuss the points then. Can you take any one with you to give you support?

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