Not enjoying first trimester feel guilty need help

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Hello all.

I am about seven weeks pregnant now going for my scan next week. Ever since I have been pregnant or found out I have been pregnant the journey hasn’t been that pleasant. I am exhausted I can’t go for my normal runs which in turn is making me feel really low are use money to help keep anxiety and depression at bay. I have had a UTI (which I’ve never had before) I am experiencing extreme breast pain everything feels wobbly I feel really low I have a stye because I’m so tired I feel nauseous constantly, and above all feel really guilty because I should be enjoying this process. It’s made even more worse because my partner is trying really hard to be there for me but I’m so grumpy around him and today I feel like he’s just giving up already because I cannot shake my mood and I don’t know what to do are there any tips to make me feel better I feel really bad and very guilty :(

Love Jess x

The first 12 weeks are really hard. I have hyperemisis and have been essentially bed bound since 8 weeks. Plus all the other delightful symptoms. It feels like a long time but it isn't. It will pass. You will fell better and be able to enjoy your pregnancy.

You have nothing to feel guilty about! I remember feeling dreadful during much of my two pregnancies. You will have good times and not so good times and it is not your fault at all! Good luck!

Why do you feel guilty? Pregnancy is horrible!!! Your body is used and abused!
That being said I did go on to have a second child as children are wonderful and worth the horridness that is pregnancy.

In your shoes I'd politely explain to your partner today you are feeling grumpy so could you please have some time alone. Tell him to put his feet up and watch TV or play a video game.

I don’t think many people enjoy the first trimester tbh.

Oh god, no one loves the first 12 weeks! I was throwing up everywhere, needing a nap every five minutes and crying about it all to my partner. It will pass – I felt amazing in the second trimester and well into the third.

Tips would be go easy on yourself! Can you manage a walk rather than a run for some air? Eat whatever you can stomach, I lived off crisps and fizzy drinks during those early weeks. Find something good to watch / read / sit quietly and do (jigsaws and colouring were good ones) and just veg out. You’re growing a person and the first trimester is the worst bit. It will pass!

Currently 9 weeks, first trimester is the worst, I am not me at all, I'm a lazy nauseous wreck How you are feeling is totally normal.

Don't feel guilty... you're really not meant to enjoy the first trimester. People that do are very lucky! Most people have a shit 12 weeks but it does get easier.... and harder but in other ways haha.