Bloody broodiness

[Sloughsabigplace]

I am 42 in three weeks.

My youngest is 17 months. I do not need to have another child. Pregnancy is hell for me. I suffer from HG, I spend large chunks of time in hospital on drips for dehydration as even the strongest anti sickness medication doesn’t help me much (over three pregnancies, I’ve tried them all) and I am sick constantly and feel like I am about to die from 5 weeks until the baby is born. I honestly have to spend most of those 9 months laying completely still in a dark room.

I have three amazing children, with huge age gaps (oldest is 20 this year), due to the horrific pregnancies - I’ve basically waited to have another until the child already here is old enough to tolerate and understand me being almost totally incapacitated for the entire 9 months. There is no way on earth, even with my very supportive husband who takes over as much as possible while working full time, that I could even contemplate a pregnancy with a toddler to look after. It wouldn’t be fair on her.

Plus, I have enough children already.

Why the hell does my mind not realise all of this?

I even dream of having another baby sometimes.

Tell me it will pass.

Aw bless you, I don’t know as I am broody too and contemplating a 3rd at 40. But I am sure it will pass. You give very good reasons for not doing it again. What is the longing do you think, does it feel like a physiological thing? What is the need you would be looking to fulfil do you think?

I had HG with all of my pregnancies too and would ‘forget’ how bad it was till the next time 🤢🤢🤢

I don’t have an answer to whether broodiness goes or not I’m afraid

I've had this really badly for the past year. My youngest was a high needs baby and I am only starting to feel normal again after 5 years so I know it is a bad idea and we have agreed no more.

I notice mine gets worse at ovulation time, it's mother nature trying to do her job.

I think part of it is my eldest being a grown up now.

He’s just started a proper career. He’s got no solid plans to leave home yet, but he’s spoken about the future. Fantastic for him and they all have to grow and leave eventually, that’s the point of life. So I think that’s a massive part of it.

But I just love being a parent. I love having children around. And I make pretty awesome ones. The main reason for the gaps was the horrific pregnancies, but another reason is that I couldn’t imagine my life without a child in it. So I wanted to stretch that for as long as possible over my life. We had our first at 22, but didn’t miss out as. we did all the travelling, backpacking as well, with him.

My children adore each other and are so close despite the age gaps.

If I was able to do pregnancy (and birth) well, I think we would have had 6

Our bodies are strange things.
I’ve just had a baby…but I’m broody. Wtf? How can I be broody if I’ve just had a baby? Im too embarrassed to tell my dp about it because it’s ridiculous.
It’s just hormones flying around