New job but radio silence. Normal or should I be worried?

[Diditopknot]

I don’t start the job for a few weeks yet.
They put me in touch with someone who I may be working closely with via email.
Emailed 2 or 3 times, met them once.
I emailed on Monday to say can’t wait to start, thanked them for being so lovely & helpful when we met.
Nothing. No reply, nothing.
Also since the recruitment process, nothing from the company who claim to be completely people/staff focussed.

One thing that really really worries me is that at the meeting this colleague to be was extremely outgoing, bubbly, very very chatty, loves alcohol, (the kind of person I would love to be) where as I am opposite. Don’t touch alcohol, introvert, very shy.
I’m worried that they may have reported back that I’m not what they want and that something is going on in the background to maybe not allow me to start because I’m just not their kind of person.

Fuck. I sound like a complete loser don’t I, overthinking self centred arsehole.

Hate being like this.

Please don't worry. They're probably very busy and your email doesn't sound like it needed a response. Just try and enjoy the next two weeks before you start, new jobs normally feel quite overwhelming for the first month.

They are possibly very busy, or felt like they didn’t need to reply.

Have you signed a contract? Do you know where/who to report to on your first day?

Also, don’t compare yourself unfavourably to other people! It would be a boring world if we were all the same type of personality.

They might be off sick or anything, or just the sort of person who get side tracked on something urgent and forgets the non urgent things.

They must be hiring because they have enough work for you , therefore at the moment they are struggling without enough staff .
I'm sure your party spirit and tolerance of alcohol is the last thing they care about right now , so please chill .

You’re overthinking it. There was no need for them to reply to your email, you said nice things but it didn’t really need a reply. They are busy. Just turn up on your first day and get stuck in

Maybe they're off work sick or on annual leave?

I would find it odd if an employer was in constant/regular contact before a start date too - what do they need to be in touch with you about?

I think meeting a colleague and receiving a few emails before your start date is quite a lot of contact. I've recruited quite a few staff and it's common for people to not show up for interviews, or change their mind/circumstances after being offered a job. I wouldn't ask one of my team to spend too much time in contact with a new starter before day 1, because you might never turn up!

Don't stress, check in with the person who hired you the week before you start, and good luck!

YES!!
Of course you are right!!
Thanks xx

You don’t sound like a loser, just a bit anxious.
I actually recruited a new member of staff last year and only had 1 brief conversation with her between her accepting the offer and starting the job. I wouldn’t expect more from either side.
Chill out, don’t overthink and enjoy the new job

Being introverted and not drinking isn’t a negative! She’s probably just busy. Often people don’t answer if it isn’t urgent, so social chit chat- not urgent and you won’t start for a few weeks - she’ll contact you nearer the time.