Misogynistic neighbour really upset me today

[dietpepsi13]

So I live next to a guy, I'll call him Eric, he is in his late 40's. I never really had much to do with him but the few times I spoke to him I got away from him as quickly as possible because he is extremely misogynistic, homophobic and just hateful towards everyone in general

He is a huge anti vaxxer and covid denier and I have no problem with anyone having their own view on things, but I'm a carer and have seen first hand the effect Covid has had on many people, however he has said that it's all made up. He also knows me and another one of our neighbours is a vegetarian and he said that being vegan or vegetarian ages people terribly and it's no wonder I look 'years older' I'm not someone who is quick to internalise things but I must admit that his comments really cut me as someone who has struggled with body dysmorphia since my teenage years. This guy has also verbally abused me for wearing a mask saying that I'm a 'sheep'

Its honestly at the point I hate living where I am and just don't feel safe around this guy who is a complete nutter

He sounds horrible. Not a happy, contented kinda guy, then? I too would always be in a rush. "Can't stop, see you!" Or get out your phone and pretend you're on a call when you see him. I personally wouldn't be intentionally rude to someone, but I don't feel obliged to stop and listen to their bs either.

You don't have to speak to him, ever again, no witty come backs, no smiles and waves, ignore him completely, dead to you. Don't feed him, don't give him any attention at all.

Get some little headphones or have you phone to hand. If marching briskly past isn’t enough, just say sorry sorry!!! - on a call. Don’t engage with him, ever, however rude you have to be. He’ll get bored and go annoy someone else.

From what you say he is of v low intelligence with possible mental health problems, so don’t take the wittering to heart.

All great suggestions thank you.

Disregard, he’s an idiot. Don’t arrive at or leave the house without ear buds in, just smile, mouth hi and wave at him, pretending you are listening to a pod cast/music/ or on a call

Better a sheep than an arsehole.

Stay away from the guy. People like him can suddenly lash out.

He sounds like a nutty QAnon follower from the States.

Smile, nod, carry on with your day and be glad you’re the opposite to him x

Grey rock. No exceptions. It works.

@dietpepsi13

he's a kinda puny balding guy with very bad hygiene. Apparently he believes the water in showers is too harmful to wash. Last thing I know he was a life coach for a few wet days

Ugh!! This type of twerp is definitely not someone to pay any attention to. Selective hearing (or earbuds whenever you are in his vicinity) is your friend here - and I also echo "smile and wave", whilst rapidly moving in a direction away from this sad sack of a person. 🌹

I'd move 🤦‍♀️

Just ignore. We have a neighbour who does nothing but watch TV til silly o’clock and wants to tell you how lonely/skint he is at mad length. I feel sorry for him, but I honestly don’t have time sometimes so just zoom past with a brief hello.

@Marshmelllo that's actually something I'm really considering

Beam broady at him and say " Oh Eric you do make me laugh"
and leave it at that. .l also have a very annoying neighbour, when he starts spouting rubbish l just cut him off with that and go on my way.

Hmm. I think your next response to anything he says is 'oh do fuck off'.

He says this shit because you don't bat it back to him.

I fell out with a neighbour (she literally badmouthed me all over town) simply because I stopped talking to her. I can't recommend any sort of blanking because people take it very badly. It's painful when she's literally next to our property daily.

I think better to respond with boundaried and polite cheerful kindness. Some smiles, no comment, move on, none of your emotion actually invested.

"Top of the morning to you, too."

"Oh Eric, you have such different ideas."

"Nice to see you're up and about mate."

"This rain is terrible."

"Another day another breadcrust."

etc . don't play his game, try to move him to a more positive space if you speak at all. He can wallow in his weird ideas.

Laugh at him and don't stop. Really crack up, he'll be furious. Then every time you see him smirk and do a funny face. He'll avoid you forever.

Unfortunately I've got one the same! I literally just ignore him now, will walk past him without even acknowledging him. I just refer to him as the fruit loop. Can't be dealing with people like that. They never have any actual facts to back stuff up, just talk louder as a way to show they are right. Everything is a hoax, all sheep, when will everyone wake up blah blah blah. Just look through him if he tries to talk to you, and carry on with what you're doing.

Headphones are your answer

@LER83 I'm sorry you have a neighbour like that too, fruit loop is spot on. You're right, there is no reasoning with people like that and they never have any facts to back up what they are saying