60th birthday blues

[Shehasadiamondinthesky]

So guess I shouldn't be miserable and pathetic but Im really badly hurt. Nothing has been organised for my 60th at all. I tried to be proactive and organise something like a coffee or lunch out. I was willing to pay and travel but was told everyone is too busy.
DS cant do anything as he is abroad on business and we,ve discussed this and we,re fine with it. We'll go out in March when he gets home. He has to go where he is sent.
A bit of back story the rest of the family has massive parties for big birthdays and everyone goes yet mine are always ignored. I am child of mothers first marriage and have always been left out and ignored.
I just can't bear yet another birthday let alone this one staring at 4 walls on my own. I cant go anywhere because I've just had surgery.
I just don't know how I'm going to get through the day. I wish I could just get some sleeping pills and sleep through it but GP says no.
Siblings got big birthday celebrations, tons of Xmas presents every year, expensive weddings etc and me nothing.
Its just so hurtful to be doing this on my own for yet another year.

Happy Birthday. I turned 60 last May, so couldn’t do anything, DH and I went out for a meal and sat outside freezing. I arranged this. My family are not into parties, so it’s down to me to organise anything on big birthdays, but we usually go out for a meal with close family. It’s always difficult getting anything organised mid week, but could you arrange something for the weekend, like an afternoon tea delivery. Most of my friends have daughters who seem to be way better at organising birthday get togethers. Unfortunately I have 2 adult sons, who don’t come up with anything.

Happy Birthday. Can you get some treats delivered? Snuggle down with a box set?
Plan something really lovely for March when you’re better, focussing on you.
We tend to do low key big birthdays, but really special treats for the birthday person often spread over time.

Happy 60th Birthday xx

Can you order yourself a takeaway? With some alcohol included?

Sorry, but your post doesn't make sense to me

You said coffee or lunch out, but then you say that you can't go out due to having surgery

Can you go out ?

Yes that did sound a bit confusing I was prepared to do a long trip in a taxi. I cant currently drive or walk about outside.

I'm sorry. That all sounds rubbish OP. I'm not surprised you're feeling sad.

If you are able to wait until you are better & mobile again

I don't know your budget

I would book yourself into a hotel or cottage with a lovely view or spa for a couple of nights & really treat yourself
If you can go anytime non school holidays, you can get some good bargains

Happy birthday for whenever it comes! 🎉

It does sound as if the actual day should be one for home treats and lots of planning for a proper celebration once you are fully recuperated and your son is available to join you.

But this:

I am child of mothers first marriage and have always been left out and ignored.

• needs throwing away now. Truly. I also have a significant birthday coming up and I’m excited because it’s the age from which I’ve sworn to indulge myself. No more waiting for perfect circumstances, compliant relatives, adoring suitors … I intend to have the best of everything, from now. History be damned, it doesn’t matter whose daughter you are. Decide to enjoy yourself.