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Older child injured my 6yo

19 replies

womaninatightspot · 03/02/2022 07:16

Yesterday at the park an older boy (4 years above so 10ish) pulled my daughter off the side of the slide hurting her wrist. In quite a lot of pain still so has gone for an X ray. Am going to email the school to explain her absence and will tell them what happened. However if it's broken should I report it to the police? If it was an adult I'd certainly be reporting it as assault. I dare say not much will happen but the idea that you can go round hurting people half your size with no consequences seems outrageous.

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cherrytopcake · 03/02/2022 07:18

Reporting a 10 year old to the police ? Are you sure ?! Yes he shouldn't have hurt her but unfortunately there's not much you can do if you don't know the child/parents. It's upsetting but you can't report a child to the police. Rethink that part

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womaninatightspot · 03/02/2022 07:26

I know the child/ mum a bit. Small school we all know everyone else. I suspect when informed she'll apologise but no consequences for him. School obviously won't do anything as it happened off their property/ hours.

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EarringsandLipstick · 03/02/2022 07:31

You're not serious?!

One of my DC had a broken collar bone at 5 because an older child pushed him down aggressively. I was irritated that the mum who I knew, was utterly unconcerned. However, it's life, and not a criminal action.

Talk to the mum if you have concerns

Houseofvelour · 03/02/2022 07:31

I'd personally just go straight to the mum to talk about what happened. I wouldn't involve the police as they're not going to do anything and he's only 10.
I really hope your daughter is ok xx

Stompythedinosaur · 03/02/2022 07:33

Tell the school either way if you are concerned about the behaviour in the playground.

Police is way over the top to thr point of ludicrousness.

cherrytopcake · 03/02/2022 08:33

So if you know the mum speak directly to her. Not the police. Plus if it's a small school word will get out that you reported a 10 year old to the police - and this won't go down well.

FoamBurst · 03/02/2022 08:42

You've got to be on a wind up!
Police???!
Get a grip.

Things happen at parks etc. OK so the child shouldn't hurt others but I doubt they did it in a brutal way.
It's not like the child went up to your dd with a shovel and swung it at her face.

Bonheurdupasse · 03/02/2022 08:43

OP
10 is the age of criminal responsibility so not sure why others on this thread are up in arms???

Monkeybutt1 · 03/02/2022 08:44

If it was at the park, the school can't do anything as it wasn't on their grounds. I would explain why she is off, but no need to involve them in what actually happened.
Would you really report this to the police? They are kids, kids are rough and kids hurt each other. Intentionally sometimes and sometimes they are just too rough by accident.

bootswind · 03/02/2022 08:49

I would report it to the police if it wasn't an accident and he was purposely being malicious. He shouldn't just get away with it with no consequences, your poor child. At least if the police spoke to him he would realise not to hurt people again.

MintJulia · 03/02/2022 08:52

Involving the police is a bit over the top. Unless this is a latest in a long line of bullying, it just sounds like a bit of rough and tumble in a play ground.

Wait and see if your dd is hurt. If there is any real damage, have a friendly word with the mum and ask her to ask her son to calm down, be more careful, remember other dcs are smaller etc.

Monkeybutt1 · 03/02/2022 12:37

My son is almost 10, if he shoplifted then yes ring the police. If he was a bit rough in a park and accidently hurt someone then its ridiculous and a waste of police time if nothing else.

Wolfiefan · 03/02/2022 12:43

What did you say to him when he did it?

BogRollBOGOF · 03/02/2022 14:23

10 is the age of criminal responsibility and it's obviously a stupid action that the child did. They wouldn't necessarily know that it could cause an injury worth x-raying though.

The UK has one of the lowest ages of criminal responsibility and the reality is that it tends to be serious, repeated incidents that are taken seriously.

It is worth the school being aware even though it was off-site. It may be a relevant piece in a wider picture.

CrotchetyQuaver · 03/02/2022 14:33

There's ways round this especially in a small community without involving the police, all you have to do is tell people who ask how she got injured.

Yes I would mention it to the mother, either the boy is deliberately mean or he's stronger than he realises and needs to be more careful in future. I would be looking for the boy to apologise to the injured child especially if it's broken.

Georgeskitchen · 03/02/2022 14:35

Speak to the mother but make it clear there had better not be any more incidents or you will be informing the cops

ChocolateMassacre · 03/02/2022 14:44

No, I wouldn't report a child that age to the police for an injury caused accidentally to another child.

I would have a word with the mum though, to let her know what happened and ask her to tell her child to take more care in future around other children, especially younger ones. Some 10 year olds are big for their age and the physical harm they can cause outweighs their maturity so they do need reminding to play gently.

itwasntaparty · 03/02/2022 14:50

What do you think the police or school would do for a playground accident? 🤦🏻‍♀️

Guacamoleontoast · 03/02/2022 15:05

It's done now, so what exactly would you want the police to do about it, if indeed they would ever consider getting involved a playground accident?
You could speak to the mother of course, but again, what is your preferred outcome?

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