Finances and Incapacity

[Jingers5]

I have a relative who has alcohol related brain damage as far as l am aware. His wife is divorcing him, selling the family home and buying a home for their daughter with my relatives' half of the proceeds.

My relative is apparently very confused and his wife is the only one available when we phone. Is there any way that we can protect his finances? What options are available to us as a family.

Will he be going into a home ? How bad is his brain damage. Maybe she wants the house and any proceeds not to be in his name so it won't get sold off to pay for his care.

There's not much you can do as it's not really any of your business.

I personally won't be doing anything about it as not my business as Quizzical eyebrows stated (thanks for pointing out the obvious). I wanted advice only. His brain damage is quite bad as he has no awareness of what's happening around him. I think his family will probably look after him if he moves back in with them. His wife always has an agenda to suit herself. She will not consider his welfare/and wants the proceeds for the daughter to buy her own place. This guy has worked hard and he will most likely be left with nothing.

Worked hard? He's an alcoholic who has damaged his family with his alcoholism. I'd be wanting to make sure my kids were housed somewhere stable too frankly. It must have been absolutely horrendous for them.

Well it is the OP's business if the wife takes her relative's house that is half his and leaves him homeless and on the street. Which is likely where he will end up.

You don't forfeit your right to something just because mumsnetters don't agree with your lifestyle choices.

I would contact adult social services or speak to a solicitor.

Would he not have a solicitor for the divorce who can look out for his interests?

Obviously, his family has suffered due to his drinking. I absolutely get that. I have no issue with him providing for his children at all but he has no clue of what is happening. He worked until the pandemic and always provided for his wife and children. I don't agree with him being put out on the street with nothing. He would not be able to have a conversation with a solicitor as he is so confused.