Loneliness

[LouLouie]

I'm feeling lonely. I work from home but even when I was in the office, my role is quite isolating and I'm not part of a team.
I don't feel I jel with other parents at school.
My friends have moved away. I attend a gym but feel like a smiling weirdo as I'm trying to join in to conversations where everyone seems to know eachother.
My dad died when I was little. I lost a sister 10 years ago who was my absolute best friend. We were two peas in a pod.
And then I lost another darling sister in 2020. She was the kindest person. I miss their unconditional love so much.
My mother is elderly and poorly. I'm scared of losing her but I know she won't be here for long.
I just feel lonely.
Sorry for the moan.
Tomorrow is another day I guess x

Hi Loulouie, I'm so sorry for all of your loss. That must have been absolutely devastating and I'm not surprised you feel like you do; it is all so understandable. People feel lonely without half as much as that to contend with so first of all cut yourself some slack.
Mums at the school gate may seem like they know each other but really it can be quite superficial and pleasantries. I find most aren't close and just happen to live near or have kept bumping in to each other and got chatting. Outside apparearanxes can be very deceptive.

Anyway I'm sure someone will be along ina minute to give you some words of wisdom. I just wanted to say go easy on yourself. It has been tough especially with covid etc aswell. X

I think it can be hard to meet people and esp like minded that you have things in common with. I think most of us have the same struggle. I find as I'm getting older I'm more fussy with friends and who I let in to my life. I'd rather a handful of really good close friends than a whole load of acquaintances. Hope you find your tribe soon and if not the lovely ladies here will keep you company I'm sure.

Thank you so much 💓

Loneliness can be really crippling, I hear you! Have you tried meetup.com?

@LouLouie

I'm feeling lonely. I work from home but even when I was in the office, my role is quite isolating and I'm not part of a team. I don't feel I jel with other parents at school. My friends have moved away. I attend a gym but feel like a smiling weirdo as I'm trying to join in to conversations where everyone seems to know eachother. My dad died when I was little. I lost a sister 10 years ago who was my absolute best friend. We were two peas in a pod. And then I lost another darling sister in 2020. She was the kindest person. I miss their unconditional love so much. My mother is elderly and poorly. I'm scared of losing her but I know she won't be here for long. I just feel lonely. Sorry for the moan. Tomorrow is another day I guess x

Are you open to joining a group? I joined a theatre group two years ago and the social opportunities it opened up for me are immense. I have new friends, new confidence. You meet all sorts in theatre and they are always outgoing and interesting people.

Yes maybe I do need to join a meet up or something. I think I'll look back to going to meditation classes. Xx

I just joined meet-up after reading this - maybe I’ll see you on there!

Like the idea of a theatre group too. I went on an organised walk this week in my local area, which was lovely but I was the youngest there by at least 20 years! Need to find something with a greater mix of people.

Loneliness is the worst and it’s no surprise you’re struggling given all the loss you’ve endured. I hope you can find something to make you feel like you belong

Thank you everyone. I had such a connection with my sisters, it just feels so lonely without them. 😞

I'm quite a spiritual person but feel I've lost that side of me. Feel a little abandoned.
Tomorrow is another day.
Thanks for your lovely responses xxx

I can’t imagine how you deal with losing your siblings especially when you’re so close - we almost expect that our parents will go before us, but not sisters

Could you look for spiritual groups near you? I hadn’t realised until the tour I went on this week how many hidden gems were in my neighbourhood and I’m sure there will be groups near you too, whether it’s a meditation group or non-denominational worship etc It might be good to reconnect with your spiritual side.

I've sent you a PM.

Thank you, I have looked this evening and thinking of booking myself in for some reiki. I have found a meditation group too. I find things like this really helps me deal with my loss, I feel closer to my sisters then.
I feel like an outcast really. I used to be very sociable but since losing my sisters I have become quite introverted which makes it hard for me to strike up conversation with new people. And with working from home not a lot happens in my life to talk about!
I'm really pleased I messaged on here. I felt myself going under a bit, thinking that nobody would miss me if I wasn't here. Very self pitying and I know its just a bad day xx

Never say sorry for reaching out 💕.

I get really lonely sometimes. I've never really managed to have a good group of friends and always envy people who do. There should be some sort of club for us all to go to as I hear this all the time.

Anyway...I recently started volunteering for Age Concern. I do a walk and talk with older people who are feeling lonely and/or nervous about going out alone. Perhaps volunteering would help?

@justustwoandmoo

Never say sorry for reaching out 💕.

I get really lonely sometimes. I've never really managed to have a good group of friends and always envy people who do. There should be some sort of club for us all to go to as I hear this all the time.

Anyway...I recently started volunteering for Age Concern. I do a walk and talk with older people who are feeling lonely and/or nervous about going out alone. Perhaps volunteering would help?

What a lovely thing to do. I used to work for Age Concern and loved it. I absolutely love the older generation. Xx