Would you go?

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I'm posting in Chat because I feel too vulnerable for AIBU right now.

My dearest mum passed away last week at just 66 years old. She had been in hospital for 12 weeks with complications arising from liver disease but they were treating them and she was always expected to get home. Then she started to deteriorate and less than 2 weeks after they warned us she may not recover she was gone. My brothers and I sat with her in her last 2 weeks.

Last July we booked a family holiday to celebrate my husbands 40th and we are due to travel next weekend. We're heading to USA so it's a once in a lifetime trip. My dad says to go, my brothers say to go, my mum
would have wanted me to go but I'm so torn whether I should or not. It seems slightly disrespectful.

WWYD?

Yes go providing that you won't miss the funeral. A change of scene may well do you some good.

Are you going to miss the funeral?

I'm not in England so the funeral has already happened.

I would go. So sorry for your loss

I'm so sorry for your loss.
I would definitely go. I don't think it's disrespectful to your mum at all.

Definitely go

Oh, then definitely go! You've said yourself your mum would have wanted you to. I'm sure she'd want you to enjoy and live your life!

Yes, your mum would have wanted you to go and have fun.

I'd say the opposite of disrespectful! Go, enjoy yourself thoroughly, and toast the memory of your lovely mum.

Go and use the time to grieve and remember your DM. Life is for the living. Your DM would not want you to put your life on hold.

I would go. as a mother i would want my chilsren to live life after my death. Its not disrespectful in any way