Trying to get a 3 year old to behave! How?

[Georgepigismylife]

When he's doing something he really shouldn't or shouting, screaming etc. in the past I've put him in time out which is upstairs behind the baby gate for literally 1 minute and it's calmed him down but I don't like doing it. I feel like the punishment is me trapping him away!

I'm struggling with my words with him, I've recently started saying 'please don't do that or you won't have... xxx'. Is that a good way to do it? I feel like I'm then bribing him to be good.

What do others do? I'm talking about when we are at home and he's being out of control. That's what I'm struggling with, when we are out I can remove him and it always works but not so easy at home.

We send our 3 year old to his room and then go in there afterwards to speak to him about how he's behaving. It's always worked for us. When he's really kicking off he stops listening so I find words are pointless until he's calmed down.

Beats me. I've had enough of mine, so tired of the meltdowns

Three is the prime age for this.
Signpost what's happening next. Don't try and do things that are boring to a three year old (like food shopping) keep them busy but build in down time and plenty of sleep. Lots of exercise and fresh air.
Make as much as you can a game or fun.

3 is bloody awful. Do whatever you need to do.
It gets better, honestly. At 4, you can sit down, look them in the eye, explain, calmly, what you need and why and they will, generally, understand.
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Have a look at biglittlefeelings on Instagram. Or look up gentle parenting for some ideas.

It sounds counter-intuitive but what worked well for me was praising, praising, praising. 'Well done for waiting at the door for mummy', 'good job helping me tidy up the kitchen', 'you didn't listen when I told you to put on your shoes away but well done for helping me put the toys away'. Lots of high fives sometimes for doing very silly things (like getting in the bath without a fuss). For bedtime, 'who can be the fastest to get upstairs and put pyjamas on?'

If DS was screaming at me or hitting me in the house, I would go away to another room or put him out of the room I was in. I'd say 'I'm sorry that you're upset, but you can't hit/shout at mummy like that because that's not how we treat people. When you've calmed down, we can have a cuddle and read a book'. And then just leave him to it.