Does this funeral sound right?

[Georgepigismylife]

A church meeting first, then on to the crem after?

Thankfully I haven't been to many but the ones I have been have just had the crem not a church thing first?

They'll be religious.

Sounds right to me.
Some people do the cremation by itself, some people do both cremation and church.
Nothing wrong with either imo

Yes, sounds normal.

Fairly normal to me. Fir members of the church they will want a service in their church. I’ve been to a few where it is only family/close friends at crem but church open to all. Few crems have room for 100*people if they are expecting g large numbers.

Normal to have a church service first if you're religious and attend a church.

It's called a committal ceremony at the crematorium. They're very popular and will be over in around 10 minutes. All eulogies, hymns etc will be done in church.

Yes, perfectly normal for those who attend church.

This is the normal order, normally followed by refreshments either in someone’s house or a hired venue.

However, I have been to a couple where the cremation was done first followed by the church service and I actually think that works better. It means that friends and neighbours, who can’t get to the crematorium (which tend to be further away than the church), can attend the service and then go straight on to the wake.

Also, as the cremation is the grimmest part for the family, it’s helpful to get that over with first.

Sounds very normal to me - the main part of the funeral service takes part in the church, with lots of people attending, then the crematorium service is fairly short and low key with less people attending afterwards.

Pretty standard

It's not usually a meeting at the Church, it's a funeral service. Then the crematorium. It's standard for people who are religious.

Aye, that sounds normal.

Very normal. I've been to lots of funerals. Some crematorium only, some church then crematorium, some church then graveside.

Why would think it odd?

In the Catholic Church, you have
The Reception of the Body the night before.
Funeral Mass in the chapel on the morning of the funeral.
Cemetery after the funeral Mass
Wake 🍷🍷🍷

Why do you think it's odd? Very normal for those who go to church.

@HeddaGarbled

This is the normal order, normally followed by refreshments either in someone’s house or a hired venue.

However, I have been to a couple where the cremation was done first followed by the church service and I actually think that works better. It means that friends and neighbours, who can’t get to the crematorium (which tend to be further away than the church), can attend the service and then go straight on to the wake.

Also, as the cremation is the grimmest part for the family, it’s helpful to get that over with first.

It sounds normal but I agree with hedda that doing it in reverse does work better in terms of logistics.

@DappledThings @Tricked2003 when did I say I thought it was odd?
I was merely just asking if it was the norm as thankfully I've not been to many funerals and never done it this way before.

Thanks for everyone else's helpful replies.

It's my aunties funeral so will be very emotional and I'm dreading it to be honest.

Bless you, it is hard 💐. I think the crematorium bit is always tough, but the church bit can be surprisingly consoling, even if you’re not religious.

Recent funerals I have attended have been church first, then close family go to the crem and everyone else heads to the wake venue and are joined later by the family.
That worked fine when the crem was very local, and refreshments were served immediately.
Not so good when the wake was in the church hall (so, right next to the church) with the buffet laid out, but the church ladies who were in charge of it had been told to wait until the family returned before serving drinks or allowing anyone to touch the food. Over an hour's wait.

Im sorry to hear of your loss.

I wouldn't worry too much about the funeral. I'm sure there will be people about to make sure it all runs smoothly.