Head banger!

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Help !

My 2.5 half year old son , bangs his head , it’s making me physically unwell , we can say no to him and he does it , we can also be just playing and he’ll do it for no real reason - its wearing me out , he does it at nursery too the doctors say it’s prob frustration as he’s behind on speech but it’s literally getting me and my partner really down.

One of the main things is if we won’t put his programs on the tele ( please don’t judge this is one thing I’ve had to do whilst working from home with him to keep him occupied) he only started nursery in October - we couldn’t afford nursery before that as I was part time!

Quite frankly I’m losing the will to live.

Afternoon, OP. Just wanted to bump this for you. Hopefully someone will be around soon who's dealt with the same thing and might have some words of advice for you.

We're moving this thread to our Chat topic so it'll hopefully get seen by a few more Mumsnetters. We're giving it another bump, too.

Hang on in there, OP.

Have you tried teaching him baby sign language to reduce his frustration and improve his communication?

I have no experience but he's found out that it works to get what he wants hasn't he

This sounds hard. Hopefully, like many things that frustrated toddlers do, he will realise that it isn't getting him what he wants and try a different way. It might take time, loads of patience and distractions- like you and partner start talking to each other about 'something exciting happening over here with the wooden animals and bricks' (or wherever you want him to move to) and ignore the behaviour you don't want to see.
Saying that, if he's hurting himself or others I'd move him somewhere a bit softer to calm down. It sounds very very hard and this advice is coming from a mum that has had a tricky toddler and worked with 3-11 year olds for many moons, but I'm not an expert on child psychology or anything.
Some simple words in sign language and little picture cards for communicating his basic needs might help. Or something good to bang/ bash when the telly goes off- playdough at kitchen table (away from telly so he hopefully forgets).

Good luck!