I'm having a rubbish day. How do ND parents out there cope with housework?

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I've not slept properly in a few weeks, broken sleep every night. Today I really struggled to get out of bed, yesterday wasn't great either. I've lost my glasses - I never lose them, I am okay on short distances but everything more than a metre away is fuzzy. I have a spare pair but no idea where they are. Yesterday I collapsed in a heap with a searing headache from 3pm, and really didn't get much done. Friends coming over tomorrow and the house is a tip. Roomba keeps getting stuck - may as well hoover but can't actually see the carpet that well. Washing everywhere. Supposed to be doing a belated Burn's night tomorrow but no supermarkets have any haggis - spent yesterday afternoon scouring them with no luck. Should go to the butchers in the village for alternative but don't want to leave the house without glasses and think he closes at 1 anyway so looks like it won't happen. I don't know where to start.

I was studying part time and working part tiem and gabe up the study for a bit to focus on the house, but I'm just awful at getting stuff done. I want to decorate and fix our lights and sort out the garden, but I can't keep on top of the baskics.

I have adhd, insomnia and currently gut issues which are making me feel dreadful. Think I ahve SAD too. Nothing serious, but the combination is dragging me down.

Don't even know waht I'm asking - where do hyou start getting into a routien with all this stuff to do. My house is only 4 years old but still seems to need so much done all the time! My husband is amazingly supportive, my kids are super lazy but agian not sure how to get them doing anyghitn helpful.

found spare glasses. they dongt fit well, going to opticions on llg list of stuff to do, but at least i can see.

I got a cleaner to deal with my adhd. It at least means I panic tidy the night before (or sometimes morning of) their visit, so the worst the house gets is a weeks worth of mess/dirt/abandoned plates and cans etc.

Ask for help. I find it way easier doing stuff together with someone can. Can someone take kids for a weekend and you and hubby blast through the outstanding bits now so there's less to panic you?

Also consider dr to get MH referral. If you're in crisis like this every day medication will really help even if it's just to deal with the worst of it then you come off.

I stopped medication because I can't get organised enough to pick it up from the pharmacy. At work people think I'm this really capable person, I have knowledge and experience and generally do a decent job - at home I'm a hot mess.

I do think a cleaner will help, been talking about it for a while, but no idea how to actually organise it :-( I feel so pathetic.

Now it's lunchtime - how do people organise eating lunch so easily? I regularly get compliments on how thin I am, when actually i'm just shit at organising myself well enough to eat 3 meals every day.

So amazing husband has phoned butchers, located a haggis and is going to pick it up on his way back from a meeting and bring me lunch. I've no idea what I've done to deserve such a lovely man but I'm super grateful I've got him.

Going to unstick roomba (again) load dishwasher and start on bathrooms. And stop beating myself up.

I think if I could get ontop of the exercise/diet/selep thing I'd be okay - but i'm 42 and not yet cracked it so not optimistic I will.

I am a cleaner op. One of my customers has adhd and a multitude of other conditions.. I collect her meds on my way every other week.. Her life is so much better (she says) with a bit of outside help!

Oh wow @Santahasjoinedww how lovely of you. Reading that has made me a bit teary. I hate asking for help - I dnot know why, I'd never judeg anyone else for asking - just myslef.

By the time I know i need some help i'm too disorganised to get it sorted - anyway - need ot get off htis siet and actually do some stuff

lloydspharmacy.com/pages/nhs-repeat-prescriptions

You need an online pharmacy for your meds. Lloyds will prompt you to order them, then deliver them to you.

I also take her shopping as she has fibromygia and can't drive. We stop at the cafe most weeks! She is autistic and struggles to be away from home. This past 18 months I have seen her grow in confidence and we have become good friends! Best job ever tbh!

@AmbushedByCake I'll look into that - I worry that because my meds are a controlled substance they won't be able to do that - I have to show ID and they are kept in a safe in the pharmacy.

@Santahasjoinedww you sound amazing - I work with kids with SEN including autism and it's incredibly rewarding I love it. Some days I manage to apply my problem-solving to myslef - but not today...