Gender disappointment

[Kostas8]

Hello. I would like to express my feelings. I have two healthy thnx god girls and me and my wife are expecting another baby that doctor told us that is gonna probably another girl. I feel so guilty of having such thoughts but i m so disappointed. I know its so wrong to feel this way and that's why i am seeking for a response of anyone who had felt this way, as i am so embarrassed of discussing it with anyone i know. I see so many people having reall problems but it can't get out of my mind.

I get what you mean. I have a lovely son and never had a daughter, which I’d have loved. It’s ok to wish for something but sometimes it’s not meant to be. Your three daughters will have great fun together and I’m sure you’ll end up loving being the only bloke in the house getting fussed over. I’m one of three sisters and that’s what it was like in our house anyway 😂

It's sex, not gender. Sex is biological fact and gender is sexist social stereotypes.

@Kostas8

Thnx a lot for your advices. I really felt better i was able to share it at least. I do believe i am gonna have great moments,but I also believe that i will feel empty sometimes as i am still thinking of it no matter i have two wonderful daughters. Thank you all.

With kindness, get a grip. There's nothing you can't do with a girl that you could do with a boy. Having a son is wonderful, but so is having a daughter.

I have lost a baby boy and a baby girl. When they died, I felt empty. But I knew I'd never feel anything close to disappointment in something as insignificant as the sex of my babies ever again.

I had a far better bond with my father than my mother and my brother had a better bond with my mother.

l am one of three daughters and we all thought the absolute world of our Dad, ( and still do, he is very much missed) l remenber when we where young his friends would ask him sometimes if he had wanted a son? Without hesitation he always said he wouldn' t swap, he was happy with his 3 daughters. There is a special bond between Fathers and Daughters, l dont feel nowhere near as close regarding my Mum.

It's odd that this came up in a 13 week scan. Anything at that stage is a guess.

Yes I believe it's clearly on me and the way i think. I don't wanna hide behind the term of gender disappointment. I wish i couldn't think this way , i suppose i am lucky that life didn't gave a lesson so far. And that's a thing that hurts me the most ,how i even let this feelings ruin the whole experience. You see i come from a family with 4 children 2 grls and 2 boys and i took for granted that it will happen to me too. And my father's behaviour clearly drove me to this . I suppose I must be a better man without blaming anyone. Thanks again all of you for the support, even for the hard words. I am so embarrassed that's why I wrote to this forum cause men aren't so intuch with their feelings. I have a lot to learn from my girls i wish i ll be open to accept