Help me sleeep

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Until about 2 months ago, i was pretty smug that DD, who is our 2nd, also slept through from 3m old, no issues going to bed and no overnight waking, essentially, a dream.

She turned 2 in November and then overnight all hell broke loose 2 months ago. She WILL NOT go to sleep unless we stay in her room and then she fights sleep because shes petrified were going to leave. She goes into a blind panic if we leave and starts screaming the house down. Shes also waking anything from 11pm- 4am and were in the same situation as we are at her normal bedtime

Weve tried everything, leave her to cry, lamp left on, door open, changed her to a bed, gave her my jumper to snuggle, gave her a dummy again. If we sit with her, you can be there hours because she fights it so hard.

I had no choice but to chuck her in bed with us last night because she started raging and wouldnt give in, this was after id sat with her for an hour.

I work nights so i run on little to no sleep as it is but i am completely exhausted, i didnt sleep last night even though she slept soundly in my bed for checking her every 5 seconds

. Its like shes a newborn again. Shes tired during the day so shes not much fun at the moment at all.

Shes better when dh goes in and leaves, she still kicks off but not at bad. She just wants me.

I dont know what to do, i cant remember the last time she slept through, im going to be downright dangerous at work tonight and im exhausted, as is dh.

Sorry its a long one, and if theres any spelling mistakes!

God I feel your struggle. You poor thing. Dd was very similar and it almost broke me.

I was very strict in the end. I went in and cuddled and said no, it’s night time now. Then every time after that I just put her back down to sleep.

Dd did rage at me, but I just didn’t give in. She knew I was there and that she wasn’t alone but that night time was for sleeping and not for fucking about all bloody night long!

Eventually it clicked with her. Don’t bring her in your bed, because although it’s the easiest option at the time she’ll know if she shouts enough you’ll give in. Sadly you just have to be the more stubborn one with a toddler!

Can happily report it did get better quite quickly, and Dd is now 5 and sleeps really well (after requesting 5000 things before bed )

Trouble is, i work nights so i run on little to no sleep as it is. She is breaking us, me and Dh are biting at eachother, of DS has ADHD and is very full on and its making his behaviour unbearable. No one will have the kids over night, and im exhausted, so is dh. Ive got a 2yo newborn.

I do tell her no, mummys leaving now and shes off before im even out the room. I literally have nothing left

I had 2 like this and it’s horrendous. I ended up co sleeping to save my sanity. My daughters were much more amenable through the day because they had a good sleep. Not everyone’s cup of tea but I did what I had to do to.

I wish co sleeping worked. We only have a double and like our space, so when you stick a wriggly 2yo inbetween us like i did last night, no one slept except her😅 she was hogging DHs side andi kept waking up to check she wasnt under the quilt. I think im going to order ear plugs and just let her yell it out. I think the inconsistency between dh and i and every night were doing different things is just dragging this out.

Can you put a single bed in her room and one of you go and sleep in it when she needs you? Really as long as you all get some sleep it doesn't matter who sleeps where.

Shes in the box room and theres no room, not even for a chair. We did have a spare cot bed mattress which i lent to a family member but theyve wrecked it🙄