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All of the women in work were talking about their birth stories today and I feel so sad.
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garageraccoon · 27/01/2022 19:27

I don't think it will ever be me and it just makes me so sad. I wish I could join in.

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CandyMan89 · 27/01/2022 19:35

Why don't you think it'll ever be you? Flowers

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Liverbird77 · 27/01/2022 19:38

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ShaneTwane · 27/01/2022 19:38

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garageraccoon · 27/01/2022 19:53

I'm 34 and I just can't meet someone who is right for me.

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SarahAndQuack · 27/01/2022 19:58

That's rough, I'm sorry. Would you consider going it alone?

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garageraccoon · 27/01/2022 20:03

I really just can't afford it.

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pairsinparis · 27/01/2022 20:05

Your whole life can change so quickly, it just takes one person that you fall in love with. I went on a first date with my husband on Jan 2017 and Sept 2018 our little boy arrived. Don't give up hope, 34 isn't old

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Vanillacronut · 27/01/2022 20:08

Don’t give up! I didn’t meet my husband until I was 37, we now have a 5 year old. Life can flip so fast Flowers

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badg3r · 27/01/2022 20:08

That sounds really tough. 34 is not too old. Why do you think you won't meet someone?

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garageraccoon · 27/01/2022 20:16

That is amazing, paris. I'm so glad it happened for you.

I've been single a long time, and it's getting harder to see it changing. I try to be optimistic, because I have a really nice life, but I would love a baby.

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JuneJan · 27/01/2022 20:51

I remember feeling like this but I did meet my now husband when I turned 35, we married when I was 36 and I got pregnant at 37 and had my eldest at 38. Had a second child at 40. I sympathise though because the urge to be a mother was strong. It's hard to not feel down about it but it can all change so quickly like a previous poster said. Have you tried online dating?

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Eightiesfan · 27/01/2022 20:56

You have time, I met DP when I was 35 and had DS1 at 37 and DS2 at 40. I have a friend who had DD2 at 45. Don’t give up hope ❤️

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Justcallmebebes · 27/01/2022 22:19

I have a friend in her early 40's divorced and childless. Had always wanted a family but never thought it would happen and then she unexpectedly met someone and now 2 years later is happily married with a baby.

Don't give up OP as you never know what's round the corner

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AlwaysLatte · 27/01/2022 22:25

Honestly things can happen so quickly. I was late to babies as my partner died in an accident, but then I met my husband at 34, got married the same year then had one baby at 36 and the other at 39.

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garageraccoon · 27/01/2022 23:01

Thank you all for being so kind. I feel brighter now.

I have had to give up a little bit of hope and accept where I am, tbh, but it is what is.

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Zucchiniinabikini · 28/01/2022 13:51

Having had a baby I think it's really rude to discuss such a sensitive topic. This would have sent me over the edge as mine was so traumatic.

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ThreeRingCircus · 28/01/2022 14:19

One of my best friends hit 35 and decided that as she really wanted to get married and have a baby she needed to treat dating like job hunting. It's a numbers game so she went on as many dates as she could and if things weren't working out early on, moved on swiftly. She did actually end up meeting someone, got married and she's now pregnant at 38 so it can absolutely happen but you have to get out there and try to make it happen. You definitely won't meet anyone sitting at home feeling sorry for yourself.

Sorry if this isn't helpful OP but I just wanted to share my friend's experience.

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betwixtlives · 28/01/2022 14:20

What effort are you putting into meeting someone?

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DSGR · 28/01/2022 14:23

Dating is like job hunting, go online and keep going. 34 is not too old.

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user68396930 · 28/01/2022 14:27

You still have time! Don't loose hope. Didn't the stories put you off Grin

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Ruthietuthie · 28/01/2022 16:05

34 is YOUNG.
I married at 38, first baby at 40. And I was exactly where you were at 34., and feeling just as despondent.
I would turn to online dating like it was a second job, but with a REALLY clear list of "must not" (so the minute someone shows you they are not kind, not reliable, whatever, you move onto the next one).
I met my DH at work. When I first met him, I thought he was "too nice" (what was wrong with me?), "not my type physically" (now I think he is gorgeous). A friend encouraged me to give him a chance.
There is someone special out there for you.

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EricScrantona · 28/01/2022 16:17

I'm 34. We aren't dead yet. Your world could have changed by next year, you just don't know it and if you don't meet mr perfect then there are other options.

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