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Getting dragged into someone elses dodgy financial mess

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AutumnDance · 27/01/2022 14:48

My mom came to me about 2 and half years ago to tell me of a situation with a sibling of mine. She wanted me to check online about some information on a financial situation for him. She doesn't use the internet and needed my help and he lives in another country and he is old school too and limited with internet. I checked the information online at the time and I told her. I don't want to give any more details than that but it's a tricky situation and a dodgy mess. She came to me again today asking me to check again online for her but also for him.

I don't want to get involved in another persons financial situation. I checked 2 and half years ago for her and she ignored what I said at the time and she wants me to check again in the hope that the situation has changed. I told my mom that I don't want to get involved and I suggested for her to make some phone call an agency or some other department. Then she got mad and ignorant with me as to why I am not sitting down in front of the internet to check on some financial situation that isn't even for me. I know my mom well in that she will do what she wants and she will make up her own rules and regulations no matter what.

Will I just keep reiterating that I don't want to get involved or will I print out the information that she's looking for? That she will likely ignore anyways. I really don't want to get involved. Or will I print the page and leave it on the table and walk away and keep reiterating that I don't want to get involved.

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Babyroobs · 27/01/2022 14:58

has the sibling given consent for you to look at their financial documents ? Are they aware your mum has asked ?

AutumnDance · 27/01/2022 15:01

It's not financial documents. She wants me to look at a benefits and what they can claim even though they are not a resident of the state any more.

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Babyroobs · 27/01/2022 15:58

@AutumnDance

It's not financial documents. She wants me to look at a benefits and what they can claim even though they are not a resident of the state any more.
So does it involve potential benefit fraud ? If so I would just explain that you don't want to be involved in anything fruadulent.
UghFletcher · 27/01/2022 16:03

It's not your place to look, it's not her place to know. Just refuse to be a part of it

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