A friend who agreed to be my plus one at an event 3 weeks ago has messaged today to say he's got household stuff to see to at the weekend, is it OK to decide late Sat afternoon (for an event Saturday evening) depending on how he's getting on with the jobs.
No! It's not, I've already told host he's going.
What I actually said was along the lines of host will have paid a deposit, but of course do what you need to do.
It's a male friend, but most definitely not a date, we quite often act as plus one for each other. I could go on my own, I would have if he'd declined first off and I didn't find someone else, but this "do" is somewhere he'd previously expressed a desire to go to, which is why I asked him.
The job is a big one likely to take several weekends and I do get it's hard to fit it all in when you're working all week and busy at weekends.
Anyway, will he have the hump with my response or will it make him realise he needs to stand by the arrangement? 