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littleHollow · 25/01/2022 17:24

Please be aware suicide is mentioned below .I've been at my job a few years now and have really hated it from the very beginning but it has fitted around school hours, but a few months ago my supervisor had made a couple of comments regarding another member of staff(we will call her H) and her mental health problems. Supervisor referred to her a suicidal Sally, made motions of cutting her wrists (H has scars up and down her arms) and offering her shoe laces so she could "string herself up with those" Obv behind her back but she was laughing all the while she was saying this. H was off work due to her mental health issues at the time and I have not been able to stop thinking about those comments she made as I had a family member a few months before who had sadly hung herself. It has eaten away at that I haven't mentioned it anyone or reported it. I'll explain my thinking at the time which was if I report it would H have to be involved or would she find out and if she did It wouldn't have been any good for her when she is already suffering. It would make my time at work even worse. But now I can't stop thinking about it and it's caused me to feel guilty. I feel like I have enabled this behavior by not reporting it and supervisor has got away with saying things like this. ( Supervisor wasn't talking to me about this but I was next to her and other colleague) Have I done the right thing? Have I left it too long to mention it?

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rosequartz8 · 25/01/2022 18:34

I'm so sorry that you have had to deal with this and most of all sorry for your loss, that is very painful to deal with. Please don't blame yourself for not reporting your supervisors awful behaviour, to be honest i was in a similar situation a few years back with a supervisor like this and everyone sided with her, so it became very difficult to speak up about things. is there anyone at all in the company that you could talk things over with without involving H? I also sincerely hope that she is doing ok and getting the support that she needs right now. Your supervisor sounds absolutely cruel and I hope she never has to deal with her own mental health struggles

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