Staying positive

[Rosieredcat1]

How do you stay positive and optimistic, when life is relentlessly a challenge? Finding myself juggling stressful work, family feuds, fertility problems and the general feeling that life hasn’t worked out as I’d hoped. That isn’t to say that aren’t lovely things in my life. But the negative reality (when not able to change the circumstances) is weighing heavy on my thoughts tonight. Looking for ideas that help day to day.

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Umm, I think I am quite a positive, glass half full person which probably helps but we are going through a difficult time. I tell myself ‘this too will pass’, take joy in small things like a good book/TV show/meal/glass of wine, I really like nature so maybe go to the woods with the dog or have a run (not a natural athlete but feel better after) but the absolute no 1 for me is to spend time with friends who can support and lift you and make you smile with a funny story/dirty joke and remind you of why life is worth living.

Take one day at a time.
Infertility is hard. I have been there. 🤗

Don't be too hard in yourself.
Treat yourself doesnt have to be expensive, a hot bubble bath with a book to relax or a walk etc.
Set your boundaries, I had to distance myself from friends with babies/ children for a while. It was too painful otherwise.
For me praying helps.
Talking to people going through the same as you might help.

Usually by the end of the day I think I cant do all of this again tomorrow. But I do.

(Juggling the following: teen dc's eldest one with asd and other complex issues, elderly parents who still live independently but I /carers do almost everything for them, a part time job, an abusive ex husband, and childcare for my family member. The meetings for dc's and parents are endless, the phone calls re dc's and dp's are endless, the abuse is endless as my asd teen is violent. Sometimes I think I cant do it all again tomorrow).

Thank you for the replies, I do appreciate your thoughts and openness. I need to practise the ‘this too shall pass’ and being kinder to myself.