Do you dither about buying things for *you*?

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Even though you can afford it?

We're not rich by any stretch but we have savings that we pay into every month, bills are paid etc.

We have our own fun money but I'll often stick mine in my savings or spend it on ds. I'm shit at buying for me!

I look at things online, put them in my basket then click off the page without buying because... well, I'm not 100% sure why

I'm currently wearing the same 3 dresses in rotation at work and could do with a few more - I'm talking £25 each dresses and yet I'm dithering

I'm also coveting a knitting loom machine - I crochet and sell bits and pieces and have been fancying branching out for a while. £50 but that seems a lot to spend on just me!

Am I alone? Dh would think nothing of blasting his fun money on shit he wants and often tells me to just buy whatever I'm looking at

God no. Buy a new dress.

I used to, especially when the boys were young, but how I don't hesitate, see it, like it, buy it!

No. I used to though.

I dont save clothes for 'best' either. Otherwise i'll die having only worn my favourite items 5 times or so in my life

No. If I want something, within reason, I buy it, after thinking about whether I need it/will use it etc.

I find this much better/easier than hinting that it should be a Christmas/birthday present because I want to choose my own things and look for the best price/buy when I see something on sale and see no point in sending people links and saying 'buy me this for my birthday'. If they've not chosen something, it's not 'from them' in my mind. So we just then exchange token consumables and have meals out on special occasions.

Luckily I don't want much or anything far beyond budget - like you we have money for individual spending after bills and savings are accounted for, so this money is to be spent, IYSWIM.

I'm also sufficiently anti consumerism/dislike of waste/clutter to buy things for the sake of it.

So, after all that, if you have £50 in your personal spending account, buy the knitting loom FFS.

Yes! I currently have a particular item sitting in an online basket for £50. I don't NEED it, I really want it though. I will NEED a variation of it next autumn (could get a variation for £40ish) and I know fine well I will still want this particular one so I'm telling myself I should just buy it now but I can't bring myself to spend that much on what is essentially a treat for myself

No, never. I love to treat myself. I earn it, after all.

No, I'm quite the opposite, I'm always finding a reason to treat myself to something eg I always buy myself a birthday present, a Christmas present, a present for getting a promotion, having a baby etc.

I’m like this especially spending over £25 on something for myself. My mum gave me some money for Christmas and I’m making a real effort to use it for something for me and not DC or us as a family

Totally relatable!! My great aunt gave me a Christmas gift card and I used all of it on my son 😂 although he does look cute in his new snuggle suit

YES! I find it really hard to spend money on myself. Never question anything for the kids, but agonise over a fiver for me. I know it's ridiculous and I am working on it. It's a leftover habit from needing to stick to a tight budget.

I do and really don’t need to now but I think it stems back to a poor childhood and a lack of self worth. It just seems frivolous to buy clothes I don’t ‘need’ and making do is what I’m used to. For many years I could only afford second hand things and to get my hair done once a year. Now I’m getting better at having my hair cut more often although I still balk at using a salon that isn’t budget because it seems like a waste of money. I’ll happily go out for a coffee or dinner but I’m tight as anything over ‘stuff’ for some reason (unless it’s the kids at Xmas).

I used to but not any more. Just buy it and enjoy it.

No. Why would you? Do you not have a good relationship with money? Do you come from a background where money was an issue, growing up?