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Neighbour is escalating his behaviour
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BookGinnyisbetter · 23/01/2022 09:21

I've posted previously about him. I reported him to social services and now he's being so awful. He's just a horrible horrible man. I've blocked him on every social media platform and I've blocked him from being able to call or text me. He's an absolute psychopath who threatened to set our house on fire recently.

Social services are now finally investigating and I have had the locks changed because back when he was a nice person I gave him a spare key to our house 🤦‍♀️.

My question is, can I tell the police about my concerns he will break in and set fire to our house? He's the kind of man who would honestly think nothing of coming round with a knife in his hand etc. I'm so concerned for our safety. He doesn't own his house and we do so we can't move until this has a conclusion because we have to disclose he's a psycho and no one will buy our house!

He's started posting lovely things about me on his Facebook page which I know I can't stop but it doesn't help my overall anxiety. It's a very small village and everyone knows him, I know he's just having a very public breakdown now but I hate he's bringing me into it! We have so many mutual friends.

Anyway can I call the police and get some kind of log on the address so if I call them they come immediately?

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RedFishYellowFish · 23/01/2022 09:31

Absolutely, do this today and every time he does anything to make you feel threatened. Also keep a record and make sure your family know what's happening. Can you get legal advice, can something be done to move him, a restraining order maybe?

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BookGinnyisbetter · 23/01/2022 09:35

Thank you. I think we need going to have to get a restraining order taken out against him

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Santahasjoinedww · 23/01/2022 09:38

When my ex threatened to burn my house down the police went and spoke to him.

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BookGinnyisbetter · 23/01/2022 09:38

@Santahasjoinedww that's really helpful
Thank you

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JaniceBingALing · 23/01/2022 09:46

100% go to the police.

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BookGinnyisbetter · 23/01/2022 10:20

I've reported it to 101 and they've put a mark on our address now so if he does do anything they'll come out immediately

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CornishTiger · 23/01/2022 10:27

Why haven’t the police investigated these crimes before now? As a minimum I’d except a civil ASB warning notice to be issued to that man.

You can only get a restraining order as part of a criminal conviction. He has threatened to set fire to your house. That’s a public order 4a. When was this?

So he doesn’t own his house- is he renting- who is his landlord?

What are the ASB team at the council doing?

Also this isn’t a neighbourhood dispute. Don’t let them go down that route. It’s harassment and intimidation as well as ASB.

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purpleme12 · 23/01/2022 10:30

You've done the right thing reporting to police
Report each time
However I strongly urge you to get proof of what he's doing. Whether that's discreetly filming his voice when you go out on your phone or something else, whatever it is. I had neighbour problems that involved police and all they kept saying was they need proof to move it forwards.

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BookGinnyisbetter · 23/01/2022 10:42

@CornishTiger the housing situation is complicated. He lives in the house owned by his dead partners parents. They hate him but he's got custody of his child for now so they let him stay because it's stability for the child. I think he is now being investigated for the previous crimes like screaming in my face, they're going to 'have a word' which sounds like he'll see that as another threat from us and escalate again.

I'm aware of how outing this is but I truly don't care now. I've bought some lights for the shared access gateway ginnel down the side of the houses as it's completely unlit and the last time he screamed at me about the gate being open I was incredibly stupid and walked down it in the dark to go and close it and anything could have happened. No one would have been able to help me, hear me screaming yes but get to me? Not a chance. So I've got some lights now that are motion activated and I've bought some cctv cameras

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Mirrormirrorontheball · 23/01/2022 10:47

Get cctv if you can. Keep a journal. Hopefully , he will be too worried about getting caught to do anything. Screenshot fb rants.

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CornishTiger · 23/01/2022 10:59

Ok so no Housing association so your avenues are the local council ASB team and the police. However the home owner also has responsibilities to make sure their occupant doesn’t cause you harrassment.

Are you aware of the different range of powers available to each agency?
This website is helpful asbhelp.co.uk/

The police should investigate each crime. The threat to set fire to your house is a serious one. When I had a threat to kill made against me it was captured on dash cam so conviction was easy. However as a minimum the police can issue a civil notice - england.shelter.org.uk/professional_resources/legal/housing_conditions/nuisance_and_asb/community_protection_notices_to_deal_with_persistent_antisocial_behaviour#title-0

I would expect them to do this. Then monitor behaviour from there. If it escalates after he’s been told then police can take next steps.

assets.publishing.service.gov.uk/government/uploads/system/uploads/attachment_data/file/956143/ASB_Statutory_Guidance.pdf



CCTV make sure you display warning signs and are complying with guidance domestic use.

ico.org.uk/your-data-matters/domestic-cctv-systems-guidance-for-people-using-cctv/

You can also get an injunction out on him to prohibit him doing certain things. This is a civil action.

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CornishTiger · 23/01/2022 11:00

The police often need to be reminded of their ability to issue warning notices. Ask them if they will be issuing one and if not why not.

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BookGinnyisbetter · 23/01/2022 17:59

@CornishTiger thank you so much

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Georgeskitchen · 23/01/2022 18:45

Hire some heavies to "have a word" with him

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