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Being open causing anxiety

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GreenVibes · 22/01/2022 14:53

Hi,
I have been dating a guy for several months well now he is my boyfriend. We are getting on so well and after kissing so many frogs i think i have met my Prince. The issue is i catastrophise everything. I married my ex (my baby daddy) at 21, i am now 31. We separated 3 years ago and have yet to be divorced. Its in progress. So ive not yet told my boyfriend that i was/am still married. Everytime i go to tell him my throat goes tight and i feel sick. I don't think it would bother him much but i just feel so guilty for not already telling him (to be honest i wasnt looking for love when i met him so was just going with the flow really) bit now that i really do like him i think its time to tell him. My question is, do you think he will be annoyed? Do you think he will run for the hills? And how do i say it. I know deep down its not a crime and everyone has a past but my anxiety makes me think otherwise. It makes me think its all going to go pete tong. Anxiety sucks (quietly looking for my propranolol) thanks in advance for taking the time to read this x

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CorrBlimeyGG · 22/01/2022 14:58

He's going to be more concerned with the fact that you've not told him, than the fact that you are married (separated). If this was the other way round, people would be asking what else you are hiding.

Get over your anxiety before it wrecks your relationship.

pinkyredrose · 22/01/2022 15:28

Don’t make a big deal about it, just say you splitv with your ex a few yrs ago and the divorce should be finalised soon.

Shhhhh223 · 22/01/2022 15:44

You have said that your anxiety causes you to over think things, so you acknowledge that is a personal issue you have. It seems that now it has become much bigger in your mind than the actual reality of it. If this is the perfect man, it is unlikely this information will phase him at all. I think from what you have said you kind of know this? Anxiety is a shitter though! So understand how you have got into a bit of a brain tangle

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GreenVibes · 31/01/2022 12:26

Thank you for your replies, they are much appreciated. I told him, he made a wee joke and all is good. I feel much better for getting it off my chest. Thank you, much love

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