Child hates everything, anyone else's?

[Steamtrains]

Does anyone else have a child who seems to dislike everything and get massively hysterical if you go somewhere different or do something new?

It doesn’t matter if it's a child friendly activity like a group, visit to soft play etc or something more mundane like shopping or going for a walk to the park everything seems to end up with hysterics. Child in question is 2 and I start every day with such a positive outlook but it's becoming very hard not to get frustrated at how much they seem to dislike everything we do.

Please tell me it's a phase and eventually one day I won't be the one sitting in the corner trying to console a wailing Child.

How much notice/ explanation ate you giving them?

Are you just picking them up and going? Eg are they in the mddle of playing with their cuddly toys and you just uproot them? Or are you saying things like "we're going to softplay soon. Put teddy to bed and we can go" or "you can push teddy in the buggy round the living room two more times, then it's time to out shoes on"

Do they get enough down time in the day? Time to just potter about and free play.

Do they sleep and/or eat well?

Normally 2 year olds get upset because they're
Hungry
Tired
Confused
Struggling to get their POV/wants across.

Or any combination.

It might be that he's overwhelmed by doing too much, because he's over busy or tired.

Could it be a sensory issue?

Can you see a pattern in the things they dislike eg you mention groups, shopping and soft play? Do they like quiet or 1:1 outdoor activities?

Do they dislike some forms of travel such as car seat or buggy ?

Are they better/ worse at certain times of the day ?

Plenty of explanations lots of time to process and clear expectations e.g after you finish your snack we will get your coat. We always break down into steps and try to manage expectations.

Plenty of downtime but to be honest sometimes even being at home also leads to tears.

Sleep is good at night but no naps during the day, but that's not a new thing and it doesn't seem to coincide with whether they have eaten or recently slept.

*Can you see a pattern in the things they dislike eg you mention groups, shopping and soft play? Do they like quiet or 1:1 outdoor activities?

Nope no pattern I can see. Tears are just as likely in a quiet 1-1 activity or if we go for a walk in the woods. Being outdoors is just as bad as being indoors.

Do they dislike some forms of travel such as car seat or buggy ?

Sometimes the buggy elicites whinging but not often and no real issues with the car.

Are they better/ worse at certain times of the day ?

Honestly there is no pattern to it and the time of day makes no difference.

What are they in hysterics about?

How far into being 2 are they? Are they able to communicate with you at all?

How do you respond to the behaviour?

They are hysterical at seemingly everything and anything. Being inside they cry, being outdoors they cry, being somewhere busy we get tears and likewise when it's quiet. There's no rhyme or reason to it. If something is spontaneous that elicites the same response as something that's been explained and anticipated.

They are approaching 2 and 1/2. Language wise were fine. No problems communicating or making needs clear.when asked why they cried the response is sometimes that they are sad but they can never explain what's made them sad. Sometimes no answer or reason is found and the tears just stop.

How do you respond to the behaviour?

I encourage them time to observe what others are doing so they can see others enjoying themselves. I talk it over and explain its OK to be sad, I ensure they know where we are and describe what is happening etc. They have time to process and are encouraged to use their words plus when at groups for example I never force them to take part.

I try hard to not get cross but sometimes I have gotten frustrated when everything is met with wall to wall tears.