To me all along about his ex. I've been with my boyfriend for over a year. Something has never felt completely right regarding his ex. He said they were friends when we met. But over the last year the story has unravelled. He's always mentioned her. He keeps in touch via text. He was hot and cold with me to start with. We've had arguments about her due to her saying things when she discovered me. She's stayed in his head. Hes sat down talked to me and said I'm the first person he's ever felt he was ready to have a relationship with since then.
They split because he was a heavy drinker and he told me it was mutual..but I've been told by a family member it was infact her that dumped him. Overtime I've learned because he's stopped drinking completely the last 2 years he's still carrying regret and guilt. He doesn't tell me. A couple of family members have told me..he attempts to keep this away from me and very much insists he'd never want her back and doesn't have any interest in her anymore. Just wants to be her friend.
It's been hard for me. I have just found out he's been going to her for support regarding a damaged vehicle we were sorting ourselves. This happened a few months ago but I stumbled on a post of her putting a complaint in to a company with pictures of my boyfriends damaged car. It made me realise he's still not telling me.
He tells me he loves me. We are close. We get on well..we share lots of time together. But I'm terrified he's hiding the truth. If he isn't over loosing her how can he possibly love me? Is there a risk I'm being tricked into believing I mean something I don't?