How would you react to being invisible

[InvisibleHatandCoat]

Please could I ask wise Mumsnet chums for your opinion? I’ve NCd as this is possibly outing.
How would you feel about being invisible in the workplace? Bit of background. I work in a completely male environment, I’m the only woman in a predominantly male industry. There are a few of us females out here in the wilderness but not many.
I coordinate and arrange the tasks and deal with the ordering and finances so need to know what’s going on. A lot of the men (not all) completely bypass me and respond to my boss, e.g. l’ll email contractor 1 or fiancé person 2 and they’ll call my boss or even email my boss without copying me in. I’ve told them a gazillion times to respond to me.
My boss thinks I’m over reacting and it’s just the industry way of doing it.

What do you think? I’m female, mid 40s, and good at my job.

If it was a job that I could do in another industry, then I'd start looking for work elsewhere. Tricky to think you could change things based on what you've said, likewise I am assuming it's affecting your morale. Life is too short to put up with this crap if there are other options out there.

This is infuriating but I'll resist the temptation to rant and take a short-term practical approach.
What's your job title? I'd ask my boss to change my job title to something that makes it clear that dealing with this issue is very much my job, put it on all my emails and answer the phone with it at all times.

Sorry I was rushing on my phone, fiancé should have said finance.

Thanks for your responses. I’ve tried the job title route but got fobbed off, I might try again. Current title is more of a secretarial type title I’m thinking Operations Manager, would that be a bit grand sounding?

OP, is your first name on your emails? Because if so, change it to just initial and surname. Then at least outside contractors and clients will not know that you are female.
For actual colleagues in your workplace, you need to get your boss onside for a period of say one month, where he responds to all emails that ought to be yours with: “Please resend this to Invisible, who deals with it”.
The nuisance value will eventually train them to email you in the first place.
You can sell it to the boss as in his own interest, as it will save him having to be your PA/mailman. Laughingly say you don’t mind him demeaning himself to be your assistant, but you’re sure he has better things to do!
With luck that will trigger his male ego and get him to do it.

I would let your boss crack on with doing your work, and spend your free time updating your CV and looking and applying for other jobs, hopefully with a new boss that isn’t such a wet wipe.

By responding to my Boss they actually make life more difficult as I’m not aware and he doesn’t tell me, so I’m chasing and eventually get told it’s sorted or moved on. It’s so infuriating and not at all good for my morale.