Hi I am struggling with my 13 year old autistic child's behaviour. DS is like a toddler in a big body. DS likes to do his daily tasks himself eg getting ready for bed etc. However can not manage his daily routines & has no concept of time, if you promt or try to help then the meltdowns start.
DS takes long as his like for his daily tasks that he will take hours to complete, in the mornings we are an hour or more late to school& DS is not in bed on time, there again he will take 1 or 2 hours for bedtime routine. Mornings he will not get out of bed, and we keep saying to him to get out of bed he will say I need 10 mins peace & those 10 mins can be a hour or more. He spends hours in the bathroom and will start playing With things in the bathroom. On days off or weekends we can’t go out because DS spend the whole day eating breakfast, we show DS the clock, set timers, rewards but we don’t seem to get anywhere.
Also DS rituals have increased that DS has to do everything first and it’s a nightmare we can’t even go to public places. If DS thinks we touched things that are DS’s has to have a meltdown and yells DS didn’t do it first then picks up toys now they will touch it second or makes his family too and DS does not want to be second. After explaining to DS that we didn’t even touch the item, toys, food, clothes etc but DS says that DS believes we did because his brain tells DS. Even going into the car or out of the door we have to start again and again until DS is satisfied. We try our best not to give in but we never win in the end.
DS is obsessed collecting DVDs, books and cds. DS plays games on PS4, but still likes to watch baby programs and will buy plush toys eg Peppa pig.
At home DS can’t stay without a devices , even at eating times DS has to have a device. DS wants to have everything his own way. DS has hyper mobility and sees OT therapist. Is anyone else experienced silmilar with there autist child & had help from professionals?.