How do you discipline a 3 year old and control his bossiness?

[Georgepigismylife]

My 3 year old is incredibly bossy. Almost every single task his 'his turn' and it's a manic panic to make sure he pushes me out the way to take over. I let him do as much as I can but sometimes i just need to get stuff done and it's just crazy.
Also he's incredibly bossy with me, everything has to done the way he wants it, telling me off, telling me no. Not that way, This way etc.

The trouble is I'm struggling with how to deal with his behaviour. Today I got really fed up and told him off so he put his fingers in his ears.

I need some direct words or advice on what to do and how to handle it please. I feel I'm really crap with the toddler years 😭

I felt this way before I had my son but I parent him the exact same way as I did my daughter and I have to do so much more behavioural management. It’s the same with my nephews. I don’t know if our girls are just very calm or our boys are overly strong willed. I can absolutely confirm I don’t let him get away with a JOT! There’s nothing worse than the ‘boys will be boys’ parenting!

I have 3 sons, 2 daughters, 3 nieces and 2 nephews and I can honestly say if anything the girls are/have been on the whole more bossy than the boys, but I’m pretty sure it all comes down to personality rather than gender.

My boy was not at all bossy.
It's personality. 🤷

It's a normal stage of behaviour; they've discovered how they can impact the world.

We see it as bossy but often they're copying what we do in the wrong contexts.

They've not yet learnt we have a POV and there's a bigger picture cos reasons. They don't get reasons and are unreasonable (to us.)

It's about slowly teaching the contexts, reasons and POV as patiently as possible.

My 3 year old DD can be a bit bossy too. I play along when it feels cute and fun (she will do intricate games where she tells me how to move my head and hands). If I get fed up and don't want to or if the demands are unreasonable, I explain how I don't want to and then don't do it. She will then usually have a bit of a strop or cry, so I offer a bit of sympathy and a cuddle, but I don't give in. Also, I try to remind about rephrasing requests nicely e.g. 'say please'.

Luckily I don't mind the strops. I quite like the toddler/preschool stage, all the raw personality and emotions and emerging language and complex social relationships.
I think watching my kids has taught me a lot about humans