Feel so flat and miserable

[january2022]

I’m a mum to a lovely little boy aged 22 months. I try to get out the house with him as much as possible by taking him on trips, visiting museums with stuff for kids to do, going to soft play, classes and the park a lot.

The thing is I never feel like what we’ve done is “enough”. Everything just seems like a bit of a disappointment in the event and not as good as I was expecting in my head. Or DS kind of enjoys it but loses interest after 5 minutes, and then I wonder why I bothered and feel bad that he’s not having as much fun as I was hoping he would. Then other times we’ll have a lazy day at home and I’ll feel like even more of a failure because we’re just sitting around not doing much.

Maybe social media is partly to blame, because it seems like everyone is having far more fun and more productive days than me! It could also be the January blues - everything is so quiet and it’s cold and grey.

Does anyone else feel like this?

Don't believe what you see on social media. Those photos are carefully selected and the prose equally so. I can remember feeling an absolute failure as a mum when I didn't take the children out somewhere (feed the ducks, go to the park etc) but instead put on a video yes I am ancient and do a carpet picnic for lunch. My now adult children recall those carpet picnics as being brilliant fun.

It's January, it's freezing outside, stop beating yourself up. As soon as the Spring sunshine starts to peek through the clouds, your mood will lift. Your little boy won't remember his early childhood as being dull, he'll remember the security and comfort you provided.

Your little boy won't remember his early childhood as being dull, he'll remember the security and comfort you provided.

Thank you, I hope so x