Can I ask for your school Y1 policies

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Please.
My child who will be 6 next month was excluded for the whole lunch playtime yesterday due to an adult having seen him hitting another child. I asked my son about this and he said he didn't hit anyone.

I have asked for a meeting with the same teacher and want to understand what happened so I can speak to my son as he's adamant that he didn't hit anyone.

My son also came home that same day with an injury to his cheek. On pick up my husband saw this and asked the teacher and teacher said she didn't know what happened and my son said he doesn't know how it happened.

I feel it was a very harsh punishment and want to know what actually happened so I can speak to my son for this not happen again. I find this really unbelievable as he doesn't hit anyone.

In your school, will a child of year 1 miss out the whole playtime or is it a partial exclusion from playtime?

HandWash thank you so much and I am sorry you aren't well and I wish you a speedy recovery. Yes absolutely, I am not saying that he's innocent or the school is lying. I just want to know what exactly happened and the class teacher is unable to tell all as she didn't see it. She just passed the message on.

LynetteScavo yes you are right, if he did hit someone, I want to understand why he did that and make sure it doesn't happen again. And it was too long as the punishment should have been immediate. As he was confused yesterday and didn't understand why he missed playtime.

HandWash thank you, very gentle and sensitive reply. He knows that he needed worry about telling the truth. I will keep telling him that.

Oh seriously if he hit someone you don't need a meeting he hit them and is lying about it.

If he is being bullied by that child then and that's why he hit them then fine talk to the school. Just tell your son what reflection means. I have a year one child certainly not a genius and he knows that hiring someone is wrong even by accident. If it was self defence. But be careful not to make suggestions to your child. Just say even if someone said not to tell you shouldn't have secrets from your parents.

You aren't going to get a meeting every time your child acts out op.

What time in the day was the hitting incident if he wasn't punished until Monday?

He should have been told Friday what the punishment was and reminded Monday, and you should have been told Friday too so def worth asking for more details but in a "confused by the time line and that Derek is saying he didn't hit anyone" rather than "Derek never hits, so why is Mrs Bob lying?"

Thank you both and yes I completely agree that I don't need a meeting everytime any of my children acts out and honestly with a full on full time job, I don't have the time for it as well. I take both your suggestions on board and I am open minded and only want to know what happened so it doesn't happen again. There's no clear information about when it was supposed to have happened as miss didn't know herself.

Maybe he doesn’t view what he did as hitting?

My 8yo got punished last week for trying to strangle his friend with a skipping rope. DS says he tried to catch him with the rope when he ran away from their game as he wanted to tell him something, so didn’t think of it in the same way as his friend.

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1AngelicFruitCake I appreciate your reply and that's the sort of advice I am looking for, thank you. He doesn't have any SEN issues and exactly that's what I mean, he's old enough to understand and take responsibility so if he's lying then that needs to be stopped and he needs to realise how serious it is. Yes thank you, I understand what that parent mean and no I am not like that.

He gets in trouble all that time and owns up very quickly because he knows that telling a lie is worst and no matter how bad the truth is, he has to say it. He knows this. He's generally a good guy and very hard working. He's very mature for his age so I want to know what happened and work with him.

That’s a great reply, I’m a primary teacher and I was expecting a defensive response! It may well be there was a mix up and hopefully you’ll get to the bottom of it. Good luck.

MinnieMountain I admit that made me laugh, and interesting what you have said, perhaps this is what happened. This would be the most likely scenario if what both are saying is true to their own versions.

1AngelicFruitCake thank you! oh no I am not defensive and just want to understand what happened so it doesn't happen again and also the punishment was so severe for him. Missing playtime is a big deal for a 5 (almost 6) years old.

Thank you We’ve had words about appropriate ways to get someone’s attention.

But it might have been something important he had to say? Are you saying that pulling someone with a rope isn't appropriate

Hello!
I wanted to update this and thanks everyone who offered me sensitive and sensible advice!
Spoke to the teacher and she confirmed that this didn’t happen in the toilets. So my son was telling the truth that he didn’t hit anyone in the toilet.
What happened is a group of them were playing by the door and it was too boisterous and one of the child went and complained to mum that he got hurt and school took this action. Miss said nothing was malicious, just kids messing about but obviously not watching how they were playing.
I will speak to my son this evening not to get carried away when playing and always using gentle kind hands.