Relationship advice- in a relationship but I have a crush

[Anon1520]

Hi I'm looking for some relationship advice
I've been in a relationship with my bf for 3 years now and I really really love him. I wake up thinking of him, I've never got bored when spending time together and we're a very healthy couple. We talk about pretty much everything together but I can't share this with him as ir would really hurt him.
I have a crush on another close friend on mine. I thought the feelings would go away but that was a year ago... I find myself thinking about him very often and always want to spend more time with him. I have a very good emotional connection with him and I'm physically attracted to him. I don't want a relationship with him as I know we're too different for that and want different things in life and I'm very happy with my partner but I can't get him out of my head and I crave physical intimacy with him.
I see him very often and wouldn't want to change that.
My bf wouldn't be open to a poly/ open relationship so I basically just need to get him out of my head in that way but I dont know how. Last time I had these kind of feelings I ended up in a relationship with my now bf. I also feel really guilty for having these feelings as I'm meant to be fully commited

You know how people say about cheating men, "If he did it with you, he'll do it to you". Right now you're right at a place where you could fulfil that cliche and perpetuate a harmful cycle but you're being self-aware and trying hard not to, which is surely a positive sign.

I'm no expert but I would say you're trying to have your cake and eat it too. You don't want to cheat. You don't want these feelings of attraction. But you also don't want to stop seeing your attractive friend or tell your boyfriend.

You really can't have all those things at once.

The most healthy & honest way forward would be to admit your feelings to your BF (you can play them down) and stop seeing the friend. It will be hard for the BF to hear. The second most healthy is probably to say nothing but see less of the friend.

I don't think you can stay close to the friend and expect the feelings to just evaporate magically.