'How does it feel to be a girl?'

[isurvived3under2]

DS asked this over breakfast. He's 5.

I'd be interested in your answers!

None of us can answer that. I only know what it feels like to be me, and I’m female, and I’ve never been anything else. But I don’t know whether I feel the same as other women, or if I feel like I do because I’m a woman, or in spite of the fact that I’m a woman. That’s why gender ideology is a load of rubbish, innit.

YetAnotherSpartacus

Superior.

^^ love this!!

Its a really interesting question from a 5yo, it shows he is socially aware and it bodes well. How on earth do you answer it though, its like being asked what its like to be human!

I imagine the same as a boy. I still feel like I have feminine and masculine elements to me as most people do and that it’s my body and the trajectory defined by my biology that defines me as a girl.

I think “nobody knows what the difference is” is a fairer answer to “there is no difference”. There might be a difference for all we know, but we’ve no way to find out.

See David Raimer (boy who was raised as a girl from the age of 1, following a botched circumcision). He never felt like a girl. A very sad but interesting case.

One of my ds's was keen to be a girl for a while about 4/5. In actual he wanted long hair!! I wouldn't give too much thought to it op.

If you want to know what he is really asking turn it around and ask him what it feels like to be a boy. I always found that DS’s questions were not quite as profound as they appeared at this age.

More pressure to be a good girl and date a man, have sex with a man, marry a man, have kids, or there is something wrong with you.
Also name calling isin’t unsual.
These comes from both men and women.

Also bs beauty standards.

Boys/men are more ”allowed” to just be and live their lives like they want.

And men can be ugly, women not.