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New puppy feeling overwhelmed

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Rose220 · 16/01/2022 02:26

We picked up our new puppy yesturday a pomaranian she's beautiful. Only now my anxiety is through the roof. She's been so good. I put herto bed at 10 and she hasn't made a sound. She's usining her wee wee mats and is so quiet and lovely. But I can't help to think this is the calm before the storm. My kids love her. I love her but I'm scared of getting it all so wrong. I worried she may end up being much harder work then I thought and I'm scared things may not work out.

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Booklover3 · 16/01/2022 03:18

It will be okay. We have a 10 month old. Skip the puppy pads, consider crate training and just make sure you take the pup out very frequently and really, really praise it when it goes for a wee etc outside.

I’d say the first month was the hardest… currently plain sailing from there for us.

It’ll be okay. I remember feeling the same Flowers

nw89 · 16/01/2022 03:47

My dog is now about a year and a half! I felt the same when we brought him home as it's such a big commitment! The first few weeks are tough but they're just amazing! I wouldn't be without mine now and he's definitely my favourite household member! Enjoy!!

TurkeyRoastvBubbleandSqueek · 16/01/2022 04:14

Please Do Not crate "train" your adorable puppy, it is very cruel.

To anyone who disagrees, I will not be getting into silly arguments over this, as on very few occassions I know when I am right on something, and his is one of those occassions.

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KosherDill · 16/01/2022 04:46

My small dogs use wee wee mats as well as outdoors and it's been a godsend traveling or staying in relative's homes. Or during inclement weather. They go on command.

Put a crumpled tissue or loo roll tube in center of mat for them to aim at. Works like a charm.

MalfunctioningRobot · 16/01/2022 06:01

My dog is 3 now. I felt the same way for the first few months after we got her. I think it’s the sudden realisation that you now have this new life to look after who is completely reliable on you and wanting to do the best for them.

I went through a couple of times of complete panic thinking I’d made a mistake with having such a big commitment for what could be the next 15 years, but now I wouldn’t be without her. She’s become part of the family and she makes me smile every single day. I think those feelings are part of feeling overwhelmed over everything that needs to be done at the puppy stage - toilet training, socialisation, lead training, injections, getting the food right, making sure they feel safe and secure in a new place and away from everything they know. Once all that’s sorted and you start feeling more confident it all changes and you’ll feel like you couldn’t be without them!

echt · 16/01/2022 06:04

@TurkeyRoastvBubbleandSqueek

Please Do Not crate "train" your adorable puppy, it is very cruel.

To anyone who disagrees, I will not be getting into silly arguments over this, as on very few occassions I know when I am right on something, and his is one of those occassions.

  1. No it's not.
  1. Glad you won't engage. Save us all a world of boredom.
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Solodreamer · 16/01/2022 06:40

@TurkeyRoastvBubbleandSqueek

Please Do Not crate "train" your adorable puppy, it is very cruel.

To anyone who disagrees, I will not be getting into silly arguments over this, as on very few occassions I know when I am right on something, and his is one of those occassions.

No it's not cruel. It keeps them safe from eating things they shouldn't when you can't supervise. My dog takes herself to her crate and she's not a puppy anymore. She loves her crate and it's her safe haven.
JustJam4Tea · 16/01/2022 06:48

There’s a v good FB group called Dog Training Advice and support. Really recommend it. There’s also a book called dog training advice and support.

The best initial advice was from our vet. She said encourage the good and ignore the bad.

Remember she’s a dog not a baby.

And don’t let behaviour now as a puppy continue that you don’t want when she’s grown. So if you don’t want a dog that leaps up, praise all 4 paws on the floor and ignore if she jumps.

Play lots, it’s fun.

It’s completely normal to be overwhelmed.

Join the puppy support thread in the doghouse on here.

Ours is 2 now and adorable and calm and we frankly didn’t have a clue.

Justleaveitblankthen · 16/01/2022 06:51

Do not put you beautiful dog into a cage! Ever. 😠
Seriously folks, buy a bloody budgie if you must keep a living creature confined in something that has less space than a Veal crate.

glassofbubbles25 · 16/01/2022 07:16

Ignore any comments on crates and do what’s best for you.

As with any advice go with your gut and as every dog is different.

& come and join us in the doghouse on the puppy survival thread Smile and see how we all have felt like this

JustJam4Tea · 16/01/2022 07:17

Crate training isn’t inherently cruel. But it’s a bit of an American thing and you can have a puppy very successfully without doing it. Ours slept I. Hers at night v happily till 6 months. Never in the day. She found her own spot in the house to sleep in the day. Top of the stairs.

orio · 16/01/2022 07:21

@Justleaveitblankthen

Do not put you beautiful dog into a cage! Ever. 😠 Seriously folks, buy a bloody budgie if you must keep a living creature confined in something that has less space than a Veal crate.
You realise the dog does come out of crate right? It's like you staying in your bed all night then getting up in the morning. Let me know if you need anyone to explain this further.
Booklover3 · 16/01/2022 12:54

It’s not cruel if you use it in the right way. We slept in the same room as her every night for four weeks using it. We barely use the crate anymore but she takes herself off to it every night without prompting when she’s ready. She takes herself off to it when she wants some space from the kids. It’s like a little den for her with toys in it. It’s a massive crate with plenty of space and a lovely swishy bed.

CuriousaboutSamphire · 16/01/2022 12:57

@TurkeyRoastvBubbleandSqueek

Please Do Not crate "train" your adorable puppy, it is very cruel.

To anyone who disagrees, I will not be getting into silly arguments over this, as on very few occassions I know when I am right on something, and his is one of those occassions.

Bonkers!
CuriousaboutSamphire · 16/01/2022 12:59

@glassofbubbles25

Ignore any comments on crates and do what’s best for you.

As with any advice go with your gut and as every dog is different.

& come and join us in the doghouse on the puppy survival thread Smile and see how we all have felt like this

This!

@Rose220 head over to the doghouse and talk top people who have experience.

Crates work brillinatly for some. We wouldn't be without ours and our dog is more than happy to sleep in it, it is his bolt hole, his safe space. Not a prison!

Booklover3 · 16/01/2022 13:01

What I will also say is that we also used stair gates
on doorways to keep her limited to whatever part of the house we were in. This meant that she didn’t get overwhelmed with lots of space and also she couldn’t have a sneaky wee!

We still use a few stair gates as she’s a lab and hasn’t yet stopped pinching and trying to eat underwear, plastic toys etc… well everything except furniture actually.

PrancerandDancer · 16/01/2022 13:05

We picked our girl up on Wednesday. Currently cuddling her on the sofa now. I had similar panics as I found the new born stage and lack of sleep tough with DD but I am enjoying it so far. She wakes a few times in the night for the loo. The hard part is short.
She sleeps in our room in her crate with the door open so obviously finds it not too traumatising as she could get out if she chose to 😏

Muminabun · 16/01/2022 14:22

Totally normal to have a huge wobble op. Poms tend to be really clever and good at housetraining so it shouldn’t take her long. Poms are companions and take their job very seriously. They like to be on you touching you a lot they are not a dog suitable for crating or generally being treated like a dog at all.

StillMedusa · 16/01/2022 14:33

Enjoy your puppy! Puppy anxiety is so normal it's almost compulsory to feel 'what have I DONE?!' but it will be fine.

My advice is dump the puppy pads ..it's only teaches them it's ok to toilet indoors and then you have to break that habit! Just go outside every time she wakes, every time she's eaten, played... every ad break on the tv.... mine was totally clean and dry by 11 weeks as she never got the chance to pee indoors, as one sniff or squeak and we went out :D

(I also slept with her for the first 2 weeks so that I'd hear her stir in the night)

Enjoy the snuggles!

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