Would you find this odd or am I over thinking?

[YumCheeseYum]

I’ve been friends with Sheila (not her real name) for around 10 years. We rarely get together these days due to work and child commitments but we’re still in touch very regularly. Every other day at least.

Sheila is pregnant with her second child; she has a small age gap between her first and this baby.

Sheila has been talking excitedly for weeks about her upcoming scan where she was going to find out the sex of the baby; I’ve shared in this excitement.

Her scan was scheduled for this morning; we chatted again via text last night and again we talked excitedly about finding out the sex.

Since then, radio silence; but only to me! All of our mutual friends know the sex of her baby and all is well with the scan as she texted them announcing it. It’s not an oversight, the exact same thing happened with her first baby - she told everyone except me .

I don’t want to text her to ask as well, it seems desperate as she knows full well our mutual friends have told me.

I have noticed our conversations lately seem to stem around her need to tell me how much she has , how successful she is etc , just at a time when I’ve been down on luck thanks to covid.

Would you find this odd? I’m slightly hurt .

Sounds more like tweenager drama than grown women!

My gut feeling is that there is a 3rd member in all this who has the ear of your friend and has cast aspersions on you.

@Havilland I was mildly. hurt at the realisation that we are not as good friends as I thought. It’s not immature to feel slighted sometimes and question your friendships. Heck , all ages have friendship dramas

If it’s now primarily a text-only relationships, and you very seldom get together at all, does it matter that much? It seems slightly odd to me to be in touch every day or two by message if you almost never meet — assuming you don’t live in different countries or something — and to be hurt that this relationship is waning…?

[quote YumCheeseYum]@Havilland I was mildly. hurt at the realisation that we are not as good friends as I thought. It’s not immature to feel slighted sometimes and question your friendships. Heck , all ages have friendship dramas [/quote]
I didn’t mean you were acting like a tweenager! I meant the woman and possibly another crony or two!