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Leaving 15 year old overnight.

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Laffielle · 12/01/2022 17:47

DS is 16 in March.

He has been comfortable being left at home during the day for a few years, and is on the whole fairly independent (weekends I don't see much of him, he buses to friends, organises and gets himself to sports events etc. Cooks his own meals, does his own washing etc. Has a job. He's very capable and sensible.

I have some night shifts coming up and whilst I can sort my younger children with sleepovers, it's proving tricker with him (we are very close to his school, he walks in). I also have a dog that I'm reluctant to leave overnight.

I would be gone from 19:15 to 8:45. He will need to get himself up and to school as he starts at 8:20.

Looking for opinions on if this is OK...

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PacificState · 12/01/2022 17:50

Absolutely 100% fine in my opinion, so long (important caveat) as he's genuinely happy to be in the house alone overnight. You know whether he's sensible enough, and whether he would know what to do if smoke alarm went off or (god forbid but worth talking through with him) there was a break-in or he felt really unwell. If you have friends locally maybe worth making sure he has their Milner on his phone in case of total emergency. I've also told my DS to bang on neighbours' doors if he really needs to (again, only in crisis/emergency) as we get on well with ours.

PacificState · 12/01/2022 17:51

Number, not Milner obviously!

Laffielle · 12/01/2022 17:51

My neighbour is very good and will happily listen in / be available if he needs anything.

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Notagardener · 12/01/2022 17:51

Yep, have done this

Peakypolly · 12/01/2022 17:53

I am happy to do this.

Laffielle · 12/01/2022 17:57

He has said he would prefer to be at home than shipped out somewhere else (mainly for ease of getting to school).

However, he does occasionally suffer with panic attacks. He can get himself out of it and rarely comes to me until after it has passed. He also had an incident with alcohol 18 months ago but nothing since. These are my only concerns, but again, my neighbour is on hand and I have a ring doorbell so can keep an eye on comings and goings.

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justbegoodforme · 12/01/2022 18:42

You know him better than anyone here for sure.

Sounds perfectly fine as long as he's ok with it on the day.

Georgeskitchen · 12/01/2022 18:58

He sounds a sensible lad. He will probably enjoy the peace and enjoy feeling "grown up" and looking after himself

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