A few days ago I was going through our joint bank account & noticed a few more payments than usual. We only have the joint account & I don't take full control of the household accounts as I have my own business & l'm busy enough with that.
Anyway 4 years ago my husband built up a load of debt & secretly took out a loan, then a year later another for a total of about 15K for the both. I was so annoyed & I've just discovered more! with a total of nearly 19K (inc the last lot). I confronted him with it & he hardly says a word. this is quite typical of him not taking about things & I've had enough of it.
i cant afford for him to be kicked out & find somewhere else to live as we rent our house & high rent in the area. I thought that if we spilt all the household bills between us 50/50 & I deposit my share monthly into it & take turns with the house hold shopping etc this may work? im fed up with bailing him out & the lies. We get on well with no huge arguments but haven't had sex in about 5 years & l have no intention to with him as i don't want to with him. Am l mad thinking of doing this or just kick him out & struggle with paying the bills?
We have 2 older kids still in school & college. I know he isn't having an affair as he isn't very good at hiding things.