This is probably a very straightforward issue, but it's all new to me as I'm fairly newly single after a 30 year marriage.
Friend has arranged her birthday do at a restaurant with a disco (If it's not called that these days what is it called?!) . A dozen or so people, all couples and me. They're old enough friends that I won't be made to feel a gooseberry, but definitely the dynamic in that group has changed and occasionally become a little uncomfortable since I became single.
I went to this restaurant a while back with a male friend after another event. We were there early evening so not for the disco but both remarked we should go back for it another time. It feels wrong to go without him ie to have the opportunity to go and not include him.
It was most definitely not a date on that occasion, although I think now we are both single things could develop there in time. Not yet though.
Anyway, he's good company and a very entusiastic good dancer. I'm thinking of asking if I can bring him (a friend?) along. He does know the group who are going, but isn't part of the clique, for want of a better word.
Concerns:
- It's rude to invite a random to someone else's birthday
- It is too soon to be getting "involved" with anyone
- The gossips will have a fieldday
- He might read more into it than there is ATM
It would be nice to have someone to dance with though, the evening will be a lot more fun and we did say we'd go back together.
Can I invite him. How would I go about it?