How do you deal with stress when you are at the other end of other peoples c*ntishness??

[AutumnDance]

How do you deal with stress when you are at the other end of other peoples mood swings and c*untishness?

I do have a hobby to work on in my own spare time but sometimes I feel that's not as good enough any more. There's soo much stress and pressure from other people

• eg - I have an estranged, deranged sister who likes to meddle into other peoples life's and destroy other people. She loves it. She's not in my life any more but she loves hammering me. Basically I think she's bullying me to get a reaction out of me and in the hope that I engage with her and fix our broken relationship and give her apologies that she thinks she's owed.
• an employer who's stressed and moody and feels high and mighty dishing out dirt and dumping on other people
• I have an aging mum and I suspect she's going senile. She's not worst but it can be hard too sometimes

So there's a lot of stress. I have some medical issues setting in now. A trigger for a flare is stress.

A lot of this stress is beyond my control and its other people dumping on me for their own pleasure.

Bump

You've been posting about some of these issues for years on this site and other sites under various names. People offer helpful advice. You ignore it. Nothing will change unless YOU change.

Your sister most likely has mental health issues based on the myriad of posts you have made about her.

Your mother is a saint to have you still living at home.

Have you tried mindfulness or meditation to reduce stress? This could have a beneficial impact on your physical health too. Perhaps a gentle yoga class to get you out of the house.

Your employer, presumably this is the same one for many years now? Pandemic or not, there are loads of jobs out there. Put yourself in the market, you'll get a job that pays you much more than minimum wage over a shorter working week. Maybe enough to save for a rental deposit so that you can live with people your own age. Maybe enough for a car too. Maybe you can generate extra income from your hobby.

When you have a dysfunctional relationship with all those around you (mother, sister, brother, employer, partner, partner's employer) perhaps it is time to look within yourself for change. Have you ever considered using a Life Coach?

Good luck with your upcoming medical procedure.