Miscarriages

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Hi all,
Just coming on for a little bit off hope. However I know everyone is different but will be nice to hear some stories if there are any.
So in March 2021 Iost my baby at 8 weeks. We went to the 12 week scan and was told the sad news. Obviously being as heart broken as we were we decided to have a break for a little while. Anyway after TTC again I feel pregnant and found out on the 2 of jan, I was 5weeks. A day before I turnt 6 weeks I started to bleed. After a trip to the epu it was confirmed I had another miscarriage. I’m just wondering is there anyone else who has experienced anything like this? I know it’s only two and they say it will work next time I just can’t seem to find the light and the end of the tunnel. I don’t hold out much hope for future pregnancy’s as have had bad experiences but should I try again and hope for the best or am I setting myself up to fail again? Hopefully someone can bring me some hope with their stories, my minds all over the place at the moment and can’t seem to shift what the future holds for my partner and I when it comes to us having our first baby together. Thank you for taking the time to read this.

I’m so sorry about your losses. Miscarriages are heartbreaking. Having two in a row is, sadly, not that uncommon, though, and statistically you are much more likely to have a successful pregnancy third time round. There are actually lots of threads on here posted by women in your position asking for a bit of hope and there are always lots of very positive responses, so do have a trawl of the archives. Fwiw I had two miscarriages in a row after my first baby — 12 wks and 6 wks — and when I fell pregnant again I couldn’t even feel excited about it because I was so sure it would happen again. But here I am, awake at 4am feeding my baby girl. Have a chat to your GP if you haven’t already. If you experience bleeding in your next pregnancy you may be prescribed progesterone in accordance with new NICE guidelines as there’s some evidence that it can help women with a history of 2 or more losses. Good luck, and

Without wanting to sound flippant, miscarriages are very common - there will be so so so many women up and down the country who’ve had more than one miscarriage and then went on to have a baby. 75% of the mums I know have had a miscarriage (to my knowledge)

I’m so sorry for your losses. Miscarriages are cruel and heartbreaking. I’ve had 4 recurrent miscarriages and I’m currently sat in bed with my 8 week old as I write this. I had countless tests and no cause was ever found. I did have clexane injections and progesterone as a precaution this time and it seems to have worked- or it was “luck”. The only thing that kept us going was pure desperation for a baby. Ask your GP to run some basic tests like thyroid, 21 day progesterone and a full blood count x

@NovRainbow5

I’m so sorry for your losses. Miscarriages are cruel and heartbreaking. I’ve had 4 recurrent miscarriages and I’m currently sat in bed with my 8 week old as I write this. I had countless tests and no cause was ever found. I did have clexane injections and progesterone as a precaution this time and it seems to have worked- or it was “luck”. The only thing that kept us going was pure desperation for a baby. Ask your GP to run some basic tests like thyroid, 21 day progesterone and a full blood count x

Oh my goodness, four must have been so hard. I’d have lost my mind. So many congratulations on your lovely little baby.

My mother has had a number early (4-6 week) miscarriages, or so she thinks as her cycles were irregular and pregnancy tests were not all that sensitive back then, and about 4 or so slightly later ones. Still, she had 2 uncomplicated pregnancies with me and my sister. She also had pretty bad endometriosis, which was probably the cause. I also have friends who have had several miscarriages and successful pregnancies. As PPs have said, miscarriages are very common.

I had two miscarriages and went on to have two children, now all grown up.

I’m sorry for your losses it’s so hard and upsetting 😢
5 mc then a boy, 2 mc then a girl, 1 mc then a boy and the final child a girl no miscarriages.
If you can I’d go private to get all your bloods checked out maybe you might need medicine to help x

Really sorry this happened to you, it’s so unfair.

I had two MC in between DC1 and DC2, which were simply put down to bad luck. I went on to have another two healthy and uncomplicated pregnancies after that, doing nothing any different.

Best of luck for the future

I’m so sorry to hear about all of your losses ladies, it’s heartbreaking! Leaves all thoughts and questions answered doesn’t it. I glad to hear you all got your little bubba’s safely. It does bring me hope for future. I am aware to miscarriages are
common and I’m aware of statics etc but I was told after my first loss that it was common and I would go on to have a healthy pregnancy next time (which never happened) so after being fed false hope I was questioning it. Does anyone have anything that might help with the stress and anxiety after a loss. I can’t sleep at night I keep myself up with all sorts of questions and feeling running through my head I drive myself insane. I can’t seem to get any help or advice from the doctors as they are at full capacity. But last night I was up overthinking everything getting in to a mess. Tomorrow I am back to work and any advice on how to not have a repeat off last night would be really appreciated. I hope your all well and safe

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I’m new to this site. I’m looking for any advice really on miscarriages-

So abit about me and my history and what has been happening

August 2020 I have my first chemical miscarriage I was around 4 weeks, December 2020 I also then had a chemical I was just shy off 5 weeks pregnant when it happened, February 2021 comes around I indeed fell pregnant again and lost the pregnancy at around 4 weeks again, April 2021 the same, June 2021 it happened again, all around and just before 5 weeks pregnant. I then got accepted to speak to a specialist in September 2021 they had flushed my tubes out with dye and also tested me for numerous things, there must’ve been around 30 things they tested me for, I cannot remember what the test is called (currently got pregnancy brain) in the test they tested thyroid function and many other things, it’s the usual test you receive after 3 miscarriages, well everything on that test has came back clear. My consultant put me on 200mg twice daily progesterone, that same cycle I had my tubes flushed I fell pregnant, but sadly that pregnancy was ectopic and I lost my right tube. In January 2022 I fell pregnant (wasn’t even trying) and I also lost that pregnancy at 5 weeks. My consultant said she will up my dose of progesterone to 400mg twice daily. Well I’ve fallen pregnant again 4 weeks 6 days, my hcg isn’t doubling as it should be, I take folic acid everytime I’m pregnant also, I’m seeing my consultant tomorrow for more bloods to confirm miscarriage and also a scan just to rule out another ectopic because I’ve been getting stomach pains. Everytime I try give the early pregnancy unit my tissue I either don’t make it and it’s not viable and on my last miscarriage they gave me the wrong pot to store the tissue and could only test for molar pregnancy- I haven’t had the tissue kerotyped before, my partner has had his sperm checked and all perfect, he’s had his chromosomes checked and also fine, I’m almost certain in the test I had done they checked mine also but like I stated everything came back fine. 6 years ago with a previous partner I had a healthy girl who to this day thrives and shines, my partner does not have any children. I’m at a loss.. my consultant has said there’s nothing more she can do but I know there’s a lot more.. I’ve read about it, she has said if there’s any clinical trials that come up she would let me know but that gives me not a lot of hope. I just want a baby, I want to give my daughter siblings, I don’t want to feel like a failure like body is a death chamber I want my partner to have his own children. I always wanted a big family. I am only 24 years old and I’m stubborn but I’m seriously losing all hope.. each loss gets harder for me to cope with because I’m losing a battle I didn’t want to participate in! Please if anyone has any suggestions, anything I can bring to the table with my consultant, I’m unable to go private I don’t have the funds for something like that, I have considered donating my eggs to recieve ivf but if it continues happening then what? I need advice, on medications, on testing on how to cope now, it’s finally gotten to me that I don’t think I can have another baby, it’s like my body sees it as a alien and rejects it straight away! Please help

Hi Samantha, sorry but I have no idea about the testing side of it all. I am currently pregnant but still early and have been told if things don’t work out with this one I will be eligible for all the testing. I’m sorry to hear about all your losses it’s heartbreaking and like you say it never gets easier. I do hope that one day you will get your bundle of joy. As hard as it is just don’t give up hope! I’m certain it will happen for you just keep on trying. I wish you all the best and lots of baby dust