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My neighbour recorded us during a dinner party

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MaternityNurse007 · 10/01/2022 19:42

I am 100% that our elderly neighbours recorded us during a dinner party. We are friendly but not good friends ( moved here a few years ago), don't know them too well and they invited a few other neighbours around for this dinner. Noone said anything and out of shock and respect we didn't say anything....
His phone was turned on,camera faced and placed outwards and placed around the rooms we used ( kitchen- diner and living). It was pretty obvious, first when i noticed i though i might be wrong but when his phone was placed in different rooms before we entered it was more than obvious. At the dinner table it was half way out of his front top pocket, again camera facing towards us, i am more than 100% he was recording. He is a bit of an old geek and has cctvs outside all over and showed us his ,,recording" room with multiple tv system...
Before i knew this , i have told them that we must invite them over for dinner too and show them our house we just finished renovating. But it was before we went over, i no longer feel comfortable or want them to come and record us in our own home. What would you do?
There is no way i want/can bring this up with them, they have been living on our street way before us and know everyone....

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guardiansofthegalaxychocs · 10/01/2022 23:22

Very creepy.

Kinneddar · 10/01/2022 23:22

There is no way i want/can bring this up with them, they have been living on our street way before us and know everyone

Cant see why the length of time they've lived there has any bearing on whether you say something or not.

Either speak t9 them or someone else who was there just incase there's an explanation.

Why on earth would he want to record a dinner party and as pp says if he did surely he'd use a hidden camera rather than a phone sticking out his pocket

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MaternityNurse007 · 10/01/2022 23:23

Def was a Samsung mobile phone ( fairly new one) and he used it for a few times to check something.... he is really into his phone and made phone call with it before, so def a mobile phone, but it was an intetesting idea about hearing aid etc.

The couple both on social media, he doesn't share anything, the wife shares random things occasionally.... nothing special

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LondonQueen · 10/01/2022 23:27

How creepy, avoid avoid avoid!

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MaternityNurse007 · 10/01/2022 23:29

His CCTV equipments are very cool but old system and i think probably doesn't record sound, even if he does have them inside... just my thoughts...

I just can't talk to the other people, they know each other for 20 odd years....

I think i just have to live with the fact that they are creepy.... and NEVER go there again.

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TheHairyDinosaur · 10/01/2022 23:34

This is giving me "Hot Fuzz" "neighborhood watch" feels 😂😂

Just avoid in future OP. They are "odd".

TragicallyUnbeyachted · 10/01/2022 23:50

he is really into his phone and made phone call with it before, so def a mobile phone, but it was an intetesting idea about hearing aid etc

I am not suggesting that this is what he was doing, but just to clarify that I can and do control the settings on DD2's hearing aid (sensitivity, volume, programme, etc.) from my mobile phone.

Unreasonabubble · 11/01/2022 00:15

Okay, another perspective. Do you think him or her might have memory problems? If one or both of them are suffering in this way, maybe they recorded everything to replay to themselves so that they don't embarrass themselves in future conversations?

Rainbowlightning · 11/01/2022 00:19

Op, I don’t understand why you say “moved her a few years ago” in your first post and then later say “we moved to the area not long ago”. Which is it, those statements are contradictory

Rainbowlightning · 11/01/2022 00:20

*here not her

StarsAreWishes · 11/01/2022 00:44

My gut feeling is that it is really odd behaviour, but I have seen so many threads on here where people have CCTV all over the inside of their house, don’t see anything wrong with it, and wouldn’t think to inform visitors. So I guess it’s just a different version of that? Apparently people like to record their guests these days.

Summerfun54321 · 11/01/2022 00:46

Are you sure it was recording? Or was he just constantly activating the camera by mistake as his phone is always unlocked. My gran does that a lot.

Branleuse · 11/01/2022 00:52

Id be back on rightmove

MargaretThursday · 11/01/2022 07:07

I'd have thought if he was into recording then he'd have just placed cameras quietly in the rooms rather than bother with his phone. Much more discrete and going to get a much better recording.

People do put their camera in their top pocket, and if they do it totally randomly then sometimes they'll put the camera facing out. If he looks at the phone and puts it back, then it's likely to keep going back in the same position.

It would give a lousy picture too from there. When he was eating he'd be bending over and getting the table, people don't sit absolutely still so the picture is oing to be jumping up and down. etc. He'd probably need to be sitting straight up to get people's faces in.
It's going to be a pretty rubbish and boring video.

Joined4this · 11/01/2022 07:14

Very creepy! I saw someone appeared to be videoing me the other day- pointing the camera phone in my direction fairly obviously. It is REALLY intrusive and off putting. Like you, I didn’t confront them.

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MaternityNurse007 · 11/01/2022 07:37

Rainbowlightning

We have bought the house but didn't moved in straight away, had to do renovation first ( big project ) , hence I have told them in the past that they should come over once we finished...

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SailingNotSurfing · 11/01/2022 10:04

Why on earth didn’t you challenge him at the time?

Loubilou09 · 11/01/2022 11:04

What does "we wasn't nacked" mean?

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MaternityNurse007 · 11/01/2022 13:31

The comment about ,, we weren't nacked" was a joke given the circumstances : we have/ had nothing to hide and be ashamed of if recorded by him during a dinner with our new neighbours ofcourse ,however we quickly realised he was recording , but even without knowing we wouldn't have said or done anything which would of been embarrassing if ,,leaked"... let's say. It was just surreal and very bizarre.

I have no idea why he would do this other than being creepy...

We did not say anything as they invited us to meet some of his friends ( neighbours from our street) to meet at the first time during this one occasion. So they were the ,,nice guys" welcoming us to the new neighbourhood. They know each other with the other guests for long time and we are unsure if they are aware of him recording everything or not, but since they get on so well ( share holidays, meet regularly etc), we were outnumbered to react ( felt even embarrassed for him tbh)shocked to say the least....
Even if i said smthing in a light and polite manner, he would of ended up ,,offended " and could of denied it all wouldn't he??? We don't know them well... it was awkward 😳
(if i had kids with me ,I would of said smthing but i honestly just wanted the dinner to be over with at that time.)

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Loubilou09 · 12/01/2022 11:35

Still have no idea what "we wasn't nacked" means! Even if it is a joke, I have absolutely no idea what nacked means but never mind.

theNumbersStation · 12/01/2022 12:09

loubilou

I’m wondering if they meant naked… not nacked.

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MaternityNurse007 · 12/01/2022 18:34

Yes, NAKED not nacked.
Bloody autocorrect 🙄

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