I feel guilty all of time

[ElliotGoss]

I have felt this way most of my life. If I'm at home and not cleaning, tidying doing stuff with DD, I feel so guilty. If DD is at home and having screen time I feel like a bad mum. I would never be able to spend a whole day inside with DD without feeling like I had let her down.
I'm pregnant with DS and feel awful that DD will have to share me. I lay awake and worry I've ruined her life.
I have a lovely house and family. My dream job which I enjoy but I feel so undeserving of it all.

You have anxiety
I have it a bit but less so now. You could make a list or schedule out your day so that you know you have played with your daughter so you've earned the break / she has screentime

Your new baby will teach her to share. To develop empathy. Someone to play with.

SAME! I always feel guilty even when I'm just harmlessly having a cup of tea or something.

When I was pregnant with DD I couldn't get excited at all, I was sick at the thought that I'd ruined DSs life. He was so close to me and I thought I've ruined this, we won't be as close, I won't have time for him, his behavior will be awful and life will just be destroyed basically.

Then she was born, I cried for days about having to go into hospital and leave DS when I got her home he was in love. Never once has he complained about her being here or getting more attention or any of it. He loves having a sister, he runs to the car after school to see her and gets really sad if she's at home with her dad while I do the pick up! It took a few weeks for the guilt to go despite him being so good but now I feel so happy and confident in my decision to give him a sibling and it really is the best thing I could ever have done for him.

I can't help with the guilt over other stuff - we both know it's irrational but can't help it - but you're not alone with that. I can tell you that you really don't need to be guilty about having another baby. Yes things are going to change for your DD - but it's a good change

I'm the same op, I constantly feel guilty about everything. I do think it is linked to anxiety too. Imagine a friend came to you with the same feelings of guilt about the same things as you. You'd think she was doing just fine and shouldn't be so hard on herself, wouldn't you? So see if you can extend that kindness to yourself :)