When does it get easier with 2 kids

[Kinsters]

DD just turned 2 and DS is 3 weeks today and it's so difficult. I feel like I'm failing both of them by not taking DD out or giving her so much attention as before. And DS doesn't get any of that special 1 on 1 time DD got to just cuddle and feed all day long. Please tell me it gets easier 😩

DD is not in nursery but I'm planning to send her soon. I don't know how long to leave it before she starts so she doesn't feel pushed out by the new baby.

I don't remember exactly when it got easier but it did. You are right in the thick of it now. There are 3 years between mine so my eldest was in part time nursery when I had my youngest. Can't imagine how hard it would have been without that.

Just know that it will get easier in some ways and harder in others as they get older. Mine are 8 and 5 now, logistics are easier but the fighting.....

Give it a few weeks and you will find your rythm.

I only have one OP. With small age gaps and a 3 week old baby I would send your DD to nursery ASAP it will free your time up and you can settle into a routine with your newborn.

Congratulations by the way.

Mine were 2.8 years apart. I was a SAHM so eldest didn't go to nursery. I tried to stick to his routine as much as possible, and baby had to fit round. It was actually easier to go to toddler groups etc as then the older one was with friends, was kept busy so I could concentrate on feeding the baby etc. Other Mums were around to help out too. The baby got very good at sleeping in the buggy whilst out and about etc. She got her 1-1 time once the eldest had gone to bed.

I could have written your post. I've got an 18 month old and 10 week old. I'm struggling a lot at the moment.

Keep feeling guilty because DD1 had so much 1-1 attention but DD2 is fed, changed and cuddled and then feels like left to her own devices for the rest of the time.

Everyone says it gets much easier around the 6 month mark but I'm just trying to survive day by day.

It's nice knowing we aren't alone x