Single mum to 4yr old and pregnant

[knight101]

Hi,

I really need some advice. I’m currently pregnant 6 weeks. I had an abortion last year that i really regretted. I regretted this abortion because i felt like i did it for my ex. He stopped talking to me after i had an abortion.

I stupidly went back to him after a few months, I lost myself for a bit and was so depressed. I reached out to my work ( who support mental health ) i suffer with pretty bad aniexty anyway. So i’m setting everything up to have help once a week, while also doing things at home to help myself.

I told my ex i was a pregnant again. He did not finish inside me so he doesn’t believe it’s his. He’s finished on the area. But yeah i’m pregnant. To make matters worse i live next door to him. He’s pretty horrible to me when i look back at his messages. I’ve always tried to be kind and ‘ the bigger person ‘

I don’t have the best relationship with my family - it’s always been me and my son ( although i have a great relationship with my sons dad ) He lives far.

I have no idea what to do. Is it selfish to have this baby with mental health issues ?
Could i even cope ?

I’ll be a single mum to two children with different dads. I’m
very disappointed in myself that i was in such a low mood i let that happen. I would really appreciate some advice. I feel terrible about myself

Op I didn't want to read and run I have 2 kids with 2 different dads and I'm single so I know exactly how you feel. No one can tell you the right answer but it is tough do you really want to be tied to someone who treats you like this? My ex is horrible to me and no matter how much I love my baby I'm stuck with this man for the next 18 years. I cannot date because 1. I feel ashamed I've 2 kids by 2 different men...for me the shame is always there. 2. All my free time is gone, I work I have my kids there's no time for me, I've lost myself in all of it.

I'm constantly tired freedom is gone and the nights are lonely and my mental health is the worst its ever been, I feel sad for the situation I brought my baby into, I feel embarrassed when I see all themarried and settled families around me. I am in therapy to try and accept my failings.

Op I love my child more than words but if I could turn back time and if I never knew the love I had for her I would've chose the alternative path x

Do you want another baby? If yes, keep it. If not, you have options. Its up to you.
Go no contact with your ex.