I’m massively over thinking this text response

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V good Friend has covid which could affect the timeline of some treatment

I’ve written “ah shit, sorry to hear that. Hope you’re ok let me know if you need anything dropped off x”

But it feels really insincere! Am I overthinking it or is there a better way to say it

It does sound a little rushed. Could you send a follow up… I’m cooking x for dinner, can I drop off extra portions for you? Or something that is more thoughtful like that…

I think it looks fine and kind

It’s fine check in in a day or so

Thing is, it is shit, I am sorry to hear that and I will drop off anything she needs but don’t know if there’s another way to write it without being less rushed (ironically so I rushed I started a thread on my before sending it!)

She won’t want cooking dropped off but I like the sentiment

Sounds ok. Maybe just send a daily text reminding her the offer still stands and asking how she’s getting on.

I would probably change the "hope you're ok...." (because she's not, really) to expand on the 2nd bit, something like "let me know if you need anything doing for you or if you feel like a chat anytime."

I’d probably just bulk it out a tiny bit to make it look a little less rushed: Oh shit, I’m sorry to hear that. Hope you’re as ok as you can be in circumstances, please let me know if you need anything dropped off or fancy a chat. X

Depending on your friendship you could always send a link to something funny/ interesting with a " thought you might be interested/ enjoy this..."
I had covid plus another illness over Christmas and just having my friends checking in with daily chat/ silly pictures of cats etc was really nice and made me feel " thought of" when I felt absolutely dogshit.

It sounds like you are responding to a minor inconvenience. If it were me I would add 'is there a good time to phone for a chat so you can vent a bit to me if you like?'

It's absolutely fine, just check in with her frequently. I'm very poorly at the moment, have been struggling for 2 years with a condition I've had for 20. My 'best' friend never checks in with me. I've been bed bound this week, the reply I got was 'hope you feel better soon'. Believe me, your text is fine.

It’s fine. People always seem to think they have to say far more than they actually have to. Text messages are meant to be brief!
As others have said, check in again and if she does need anything, provide it. That’s what really matters.

It’s absolutely fine. What else is there to say?

Seems totally fine to me

Text today to find out how they are?

It's absolutely and I like the lack of questions.

When I was going through a shit time I used to find questions in messages such as 'How are you today? Or 'Do you need anything?' a bit stressful as they required a reply.

Your text is perfect because she knows you're thinking of her but she isn't pressured to reply.

Check in every day or two. It will be appreciated.

Hmm It does sound a tad lacking in feeling and perfunctory to be honest! If it were me I would add a bit more depth of feeling, a couple more 'x's (I barely use the one X - usually use none, and reserve the 3+ for when I really mean it! ) plus a couple of emojis for good measure... But only if you're an emoji person normally, obviously 🤔

Expand it out to full sentences and add in an offer to meet up for a coffee on a specific day. I think the text style sentences are what's making it feel rushed, if you follow me.

I mean meet up when she's better, somewhere you both like. Something to look forward too.

It sounds like something I’d send to an acquaintance rather than a really good friend. There’d be much more swearing in my version.

It's fine

Follow up with one telling her you are off out food shopping, does she want anything?

But there's little else to say, unless you want to do the whole "omg that's gonna fuck up your treatment plan whaddaya gonna do" type shit.

Everyone needs a pragmatic and useful friend. Be who you are!

So much over-thinking going on here. You've got in touch, she knows you're thinking about her, she knows she can ask if she needs anything. What more do you need to say?

It's fine, stop thinking about it

Sounds fine. If I was feeling ill the last thing I'd want is a gushing long reply I'd feel I needed to reply similarly to.

Send another one tomorrow just asking how she is. If she says fine, then offer to get any shopping, if she says bad ask if there's anything you can do to help.