What do you do when you feel like you have no one to talk to

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Not even that really just, I feel like I can’t talk about being stressed because everyone else has it harder and they do but I just need to vent.

Moved abroad 15m ago, job didn’t work out and struggling to find more work - I’m a nanny with 17y experience so easily find work in U.K. but here they don’t use nannies so v hard to find work and there are so few other jobs (bars, restaurants etc) and so many people looking that I’m getting nowhere. I had 3 interviews between Xmas and nye and didn’t get any of them - I asked for feedback from one and they said it was because I wouldn’t be a healthy role model for their kids due to my size and weight.

5 interviews today for various jobs. There’s nothing to say I won’t get them but I’m so deflated and saddened and I so don’t want to have to move back to the U.K. but I don’t see a way out. I can’t survive on this little work either financially or mentally. I have £60 for the month, it’s just not fun.

I have friends going through personal struggles - relationships, fertility, house moves and I just feel like I can’t talk to anyone without feeling like their problems are bigger or I’ll be told “we’ll just move back the “ which isn’t helpful and I don’t want to

I don’t even know what this thread is I just need to vent somewhere really

Gosh that sounds very tough. I always say to my friends to share their problems because it distracts from mine

Hopefully someone will be along with something useful...

Thank you x

A bit of a needy bump for some advice x

Applying for jobs, interviewing for jobs and then not getting jobs is about as demoralising as it comes, and it is not easy to get other people to grasp how hard it is when you are going through it.

In the short term, buoy yourself up with something that soothes - knitting, box set, reading Agatha Christie etc. Whatever can be your own personal, low-cost therapy.

… and keep going. Not all feedback is constructive, especially if you are not in a resilient place, or the giver of the feedback doesn’t understand how to do it.

You are getting interviews so your applications must be good. Something WILL turn up. And it might not be totally the right thing, but it might be a step in the right direction. Good luck.

Thank you. I appreciate that.

I think demoralising is a v good word for it! It’s rough!

Sounds shitty. It really does. The uncertainty in an already uncertain world must be horrible. Just a reminder though .... this too shall pass. I promise you. Promise. There will be a time when you'll look back at this time, and it will be a distant memory. I promise.

It does sound sensible to move back to the UK.
Or find education work in a nursery/preschool if it’s not too regulated,

I’ve now had 4 job rejections in 24h and just feel so crap about it.

Thing is, I do t want to move back to the U.K., I want to make this work and would be really upset to move back. I’m just struggling to find a way to make it work