Am I overreacting? Dsis fallout

[Valdes]

Warning: Covid related

I was on the shielding list and have worked from home due to this since Mar 20. I've been careful and have been lucky enough not to catch covid so far.

My parents always do a Boxing Day celebration and all my siblings go home, usually about 12 of us. I ummed and ahhed about going this year with the increase in cases but everyone has been boosted and also offered to do a lateral flow which I was so grateful for. I spoke to my DNephew on Christmas Day who was coughing. I flagged to my DSis who said he definitely didnt have the virus - just an asthma flare up.

You can probably see where this is going. I attended the celebration, the day later my DSis tests positive in work and it turns out my DNephew was positive too.

Everyone there that night tested positive in the following days including myself and our 87 YO granddad.

I've had a pretty bad time with it, including hospitalisation as has our Granddad.

I messaged my Dsis saying that I was sorry she had tested positive, that I hoped she was okay and that while I knew it 100% isn't her fault for having covid (it's a global pandemic) I was upset she had lied about the lateral test to which she has said she never tested beforehand but hadn't said she had (technically she didn't, she told me she would test before attending and that my DNephew 'definitely' didn't have Covid which I assumed meant she had tested him and got a negative result), that she stands by her decision not to test as lateral flows are "cruel" (my DNephew is 9) and that I'm unfair to voice my frustration at this because she's ill.

We haven't spoken since.

I'm swinging between:
A) she offered to test before the meal, she told me my DNephew definitely didn't have it and she knew I was ECV. Why wouldn't she just take the test which would've saved us all a miserable few weeks and a real dangerous time for my Granddad (who is still in hosp)?
And
B) I can only control my own actions and if I was this worried about cases, I shouldn't have gone to the celebration myself.

Any thoughts?

I’d be furious, your sister is a selfish person.

Knowing how vulnerable you are as is your grandfather she should have ensured her family all took a LFT, just in case.

We all did it for Boxing Day to see family,

She lied. That would annoy me no end. The no remorse would annoy ne even more.
Surely this is not a one off .

Jesus I would be absolutely livid with your sister. This is not an anti vaxer we are talking about. All she had to do was a very simple test. We had a big family meet up on Christmas day and tested beforehand because we gave a shit about each other. If the test had not worked and it still happened at least you had all done everything in your power to look out for each other. Ffs

Your sister didn't do the lateral flows on herself and ds that she had agreed to do before a big family meet up. When you pointed out the cough she implied she had tested him /lied and said it was just asthma. I'd be furious!

Imagine how her lad would have felt at 9 knowing full well he'd been coughing on his Aunty and elderly grandad with covid if the worst had happened to either of you.

I hope she is mortified and kicking herself for not just doing a ltf.

A family member that old, and yourself ecv every single person attending should have happily done a ltf that morning.

The LFT is cruel? Honestly what a load of rubbish . My 6 year old grandson has done them with no fuss.

I would be fuming.

If they had done the tests and they were negative then fair enough but not to do them and lie is just selfish.

Thanks everyone. This is the thing, if she just put her hands up and apologised, that would be one thing but I'm now worried that I can't take her at her word and that she doesn't care about lying which is a whole different ball game.

She was in the wrong and in an ideal world should apologise, but it's done and, whilst they may have, no one actually died.

It's so sad that Covid has brought families and behaviours to this point. My advice is to let it go now or you'll be carrying this around far longer than the pandemic, and that's just not worth it.

She was wrong to imply that they had done lft.

However, I am in the situation where we all did daily tests from 23rd december right through until Wednesday this week as we were seeing vulnerable family. All negative. Until Wednesday. And it had been passed on to said vulnerable family member. We need to remember that while lft have their place they are certainly not a guarantee that someone doesn't have covid.

It would appear that my partner was likely to have picked up covid on 31 December but didn't test positive until 5th Jan. but did still pass it on despite negative daily tests.