Did you feel any different once you were married?

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Been with my OH for 12 years
3 children

Getting married next week, did you feel any different once you were married?

I'm really excited to be married and he's definitely the love of my life, couldn't imagine live without him etc.

No real difference - we were mid 20’s already living together in the dream home we are still in 26 years later. The wedding day didn’t change anything but the party was amazing!

Nope, didn't feel any different. We both commented on our honeymoon that it was strange that nothing had really changed for us, we already lived together, didn't have children and are only now having our first five years later. We are both women and lots of LGBT people have long relationships without getting married so we already considered ourselves pretty well commited.

We got married after 12 years together and 10 years living together. I was really worried getting married would all of a sudden change our relationship or jinx it. But 4 years into our marriage it's still just as bliss. Have an amazing day!

It's a no from me. We'd been together 7 years, lived together for 5 and had our first child by the time we got married. Nothing at all felt different.

@LadyCleathStuart

Nope but I don't have any romantic notions about marriage, I view it as a contractual agreement. DH and I don't even celebrate our wedding anniversary but the day of our first date when our relationship actually began. I also don't wear a wedding ring.

I realise I am probably not the norm with this right enough.

YY to this. No ring, as I can't wear jewellery and it was annoying me and getting bashed.

FiL was going on at me about going out one day later in the week late last year and I had no clue why until DH said it was our anniversary!

I didn't feel any different after getting married. We only did it for legal reasons so of course it was the sensible thing to do.

Yes. But I think it was mostly because I didn’t enjoy being engaged for a lot of reasons, and I was getting very tempted to just call it off.

Once we got married (and everyone backed off a bit) it felt like I could breathe again.

In terms of the “big moment”, I felt that our engagement was more meaningful than the wedding ceremony. I didn’t feel any different before and after, but there was such an incredible sense of contentment and “rightness” waking up the next day.

We’ve had our share of challenges along the way but on the whole it has been good so far.

I'm the same, @Wombat43 and @LadyCleathStuart -- no rings, no photos, no special clothes, and the anniversary we celebrate is when we first met, not our wedding, whose date I'm vague about (which my SIL is horrified by!)

Yes, surprisingly.

A rather lovely feeling of extra connection, contentment and security. Very unexpected but most welcome.

Congratulations, enjoy the wedding!

Yes, I felt completely trapped and once I was divorced I made sure I was never chained to a man again. You only really understand how awful marriage can be once you've been through a horrible divorce.

Not in the slightest! We hung around a couple of weeks waiting for something to feel different, but it didn't. Adjusting to saying my husband still isn't natural and it's been five months.
Congratulations to you and have a wonderful wedding.

I regretted it from almost the moment we got home and the ‘you’re my wife, you should/must…’ started.

Apparently I’d become a possession to order around. I hadn’t anticipated that.

To be honest I didn’t feel different, but neither DH or I are that romantic. We had a very small registry office ceremony then lunch in a high street restaurant - it was more for the legal side of things than anything else so I don’t view it as a particularly emotional thing.

I love being married. It's a lovely warm feeling deep inside and the person you love loves you back. It makes the team bond stronger and I just love it.
Have a lovely day and don't stress about details.

Didn't think it made much difference at first, we've been together 26 years, married just over 12 years. DH has recently been diagnosed with pancreatic cancer, being married now makes a huge difference.

I feel a lot more settled and secure, although rarely wear my ring. Neither does DH.

He is even more loving and affectionate than before we married which is nice, abd very proud to be married to me.

I wasn’t nervous - you don’t need to be, unless you are unsure if it’s the right person.

We didn’t have a very formal ‘do’ although we did the church, white dress and sit down meal. Everything else was relaxed (venue, ceremony) and very ‘us’ on my insistence, so I had no need to be anxious.

No. We were mid 20s, had been living together for a couple of years, no kids, traditional wedding, but I completely trusted him and felt we were committed to each other anyway. We had a good party and an amazing holiday afterwards, but I didn’t feel any different.

Yes but we'd only been together 18 months when we actually got married. However, 8 years on from the wedding, I am really glad we are married as well as being homeowners / in a relationship / wanted to be parents but didn't happen. Can't really explain it and certainly wasn't bothered about ever being married before he proposed but I am glad he did.

No. 😂
We were together 10 years before we got married and had 2 kids. We'd lived together for a few years, 4 I think. It has made literally no difference to me at all. I enjoyed the wedding though 😊