Anyone else have dc when very young and now has freedom approaching?

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I did life a bit backwards. Had my dc very young (17 and 19) and now they're 16 and 14! I'm only 33. My dc are both doing really well and I went to uni a few years ago got my degree and my career is going well. I've got freedom looming and I don't know how I feel about it. I think I feel quite scared about having a life where I'm not a mum to dc that need me anymore - even though I hated the relentless drudgery of parenting. I did it mostly on my own so I was consumed in parenting and mum life and lost myself when they were younger.

Anyone else in the same position?

Also weirdly want another baby even though I don't want to be a parent to small dc again!

My younger ones probably get a better mum out of me than my eldest did. It is still just as relentless when it's a bad day though.

I had my first at 18, and second at 22, bought them up by myself, my eldest is now 21 and ds is 17, then I went bk and did it all again dd 3 is 3 and ds 4 is 1, both awful sleepers and my house is filled with toys again!

In a fashion, had DS at 22, he's nearly 14 now. I am with a new partner, have been for 11 years, but we can't have kids. I have the egg supply of a woman 12 years older than me. Makes me glad I had DS when I did, although it makes me sad that now I feel I've got life sussed, I can't have anymore, and DH will never be a dad (although he treats DS like his own).

Wasn’t quite as young as you but had both mine in mid twenties and now they are 20 and 21 - they are still here/uni (which helps you get used to the change from childhood) but they still need me quite a lot and frankly if we mention going on holiday they nag to come- I don’t really want them too lol. I think this generation are younger for longer unless forced to grow up. I had the urge for another in my late 30’s too- very common and so glad I ignored it. I’ve got lots of plans but mostly just enjoying my time and money now with no rush to do crazy adventures if I don’t want too. Hopefully we can be younger grandparents as well and be very hands on after we’ve had a rest from parenting.

I think its getting used to it gradually by doing stuff and mentally similar to all stages. I think its wonderful that you are so young and soon to be free!